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A review by silvia_linn
Gentle Discipline: Using Emotional Connection--Not Punishment--To Raise Confident, Capable Kids by Sarah Ockwell-Smith
2.0
Audiobook only: the narrator is a soft spoken British woman who reminds of the guy on headspace which I use regularly to help me sleep. Both are affective and driving was difficult as a result.
This is not one of my favorite parenting books by far. It was ok. Her methods are basically just to let kids do what they do and you just try to remember that they’re kids and can’t control themselves. She usually uses seven as an age where children can begin to understand natural consequences and eek out ideas why they shouldn’t do something. My son is four and is beginning to grasp this pretty well. There are other stupid things such as how she parents her teen son. He went over his screen time by an hour, was asked what his consequences should be, he decided he’d lose the next day’s time. Then he remembered that his friend was coming over then and they wanted to play a game. He asked to move it back a day and she said yes. Fine, but then she says to not have done so would have made it a punishment and punishments are not supposed to be used. Nah, I’d call that a natural consequence.
There were some helpful things. I do need to remember that I am harder on my child than anyone else. I do need to aim to start transforming my own habits and reactions first. I do need to model the behavior I want and recognize if I yell, my kids are more likely to do so.
This is not one of my favorite parenting books by far. It was ok. Her methods are basically just to let kids do what they do and you just try to remember that they’re kids and can’t control themselves. She usually uses seven as an age where children can begin to understand natural consequences and eek out ideas why they shouldn’t do something. My son is four and is beginning to grasp this pretty well. There are other stupid things such as how she parents her teen son. He went over his screen time by an hour, was asked what his consequences should be, he decided he’d lose the next day’s time. Then he remembered that his friend was coming over then and they wanted to play a game. He asked to move it back a day and she said yes. Fine, but then she says to not have done so would have made it a punishment and punishments are not supposed to be used. Nah, I’d call that a natural consequence.
There were some helpful things. I do need to remember that I am harder on my child than anyone else. I do need to aim to start transforming my own habits and reactions first. I do need to model the behavior I want and recognize if I yell, my kids are more likely to do so.