A review by twirlsandwhirls
This Heart Holds Many: My Life as the Nonbinary Millennial Child of a Polyamorous Family by Koe Creation

4.0

This book was a quick read for me, including getting through the second half while doing laundry. It was fun to read the perspective of a child raised in a polyamorous family. There were surprises and things I didn't expect but there were many similarities to how all non-nuclear families operate. one such example is the structure of extended family and a lack of emphasis on biological/paternal lineage. I experienced those, too, in a single-parent home. That said, I disliked how often the author implied that most people live in nuclear families. That's a myth. More of us cobble together our own families and build up connections over time than we get credit for.

I did appreciate the step-by-step advice for strategies to use in raising children in such an environment, pulling from Koe's own upbringing. I loved the vignettes about their life. I honestly would have liked to see more but I appreciated that the book was short and approachable. It was validating to read about another fresh 30-something who struggled financially and in other ways during the previous decade of their life. There's a lot to relate to there.