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A review by rachelteresacrawshaw
The Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage by Laura Schlessinger
3.0
I have to say that a lot of this book makes sense to me, and that it has made me look at our relationship in a different way and has made me appreciate my partner more. The things I did not like about it were-
the religious undertones- I am not religious and neither is my partner and sometimes it becomes annoying feeling like you are being preached to.
the anti-feminism- I consider myself to be a feminist. This does not mean as is suggested by the author that I hate men, that I think being a mother and housewife is a derogatory way to spend your life, that I prefer monetary rewards than spending time and love on my family, that I admonish femininity and dress like a bloke. It means that I believe that women should have the choice to make the decision not to have children, or not to get married, or to put their career first if they want to, without feeling like they are a failure or guilty. In the same respect it means that I believe women should have the choice to stay at home and look after their children and husband/partner and be a home maker if they want to without feeling like they are underachievers or less worthwhile than their career minded counterparts.
other than that I think the book makes some valid points if like me you want to make being a wife and mother your main priority (as opposed to putting 100% into forwarding your career). If you don't want kids and/or don't want to stay at home and be a home-maker and you don't want to marry a man this book probably isn't for you!
the religious undertones- I am not religious and neither is my partner and sometimes it becomes annoying feeling like you are being preached to.
the anti-feminism- I consider myself to be a feminist. This does not mean as is suggested by the author that I hate men, that I think being a mother and housewife is a derogatory way to spend your life, that I prefer monetary rewards than spending time and love on my family, that I admonish femininity and dress like a bloke. It means that I believe that women should have the choice to make the decision not to have children, or not to get married, or to put their career first if they want to, without feeling like they are a failure or guilty. In the same respect it means that I believe women should have the choice to stay at home and look after their children and husband/partner and be a home maker if they want to without feeling like they are underachievers or less worthwhile than their career minded counterparts.
other than that I think the book makes some valid points if like me you want to make being a wife and mother your main priority (as opposed to putting 100% into forwarding your career). If you don't want kids and/or don't want to stay at home and be a home-maker and you don't want to marry a man this book probably isn't for you!