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Transland: Consent, Kink, and Pleasure by Mx. Sly
3.0
Audiobook provided by Net Galley.
I'm not the biggest fan of applying star ratings to memoirs; so just know that. Also I have incredibly low libido so the significance of some parts were probably lost on me...ANYWAY-
While I believe all stories have a right to be told, I am not sure if this memoir was told in a way that makes it tangible to as many people as it otherwise would have been had it had some editing to exclude certain scenes - though maybe me with my disinterest in other people's sexual experiences just means I'm not the ideal audience for this book. Which is FINE. That being said I definitely saw the purpose of most moments included so don't assume I'm just being prudish here.
Both outside of and during these sexual retellings there was a lot of solid commentary on questionable allyship, the importance of consent, and having to compromise for others due to inexperience and trauma that may arise in even consensual spaces.
It was sad how overall taxing their dating and sex life were/are as a result of existing as both a nonbinary individual and someone reliant on kink (instead of vanilla sex) for proper stimulation; at least, that is how I read it, but they had such patience when it came to these moments that it did keep me engaged in their story instead of completely burned out showing true perseverance despite it all.
Overall an interesting enough first hand account of how one can work through various things through controlled spaces where control can at times appear nonexistent.
I'm not the biggest fan of applying star ratings to memoirs; so just know that. Also I have incredibly low libido so the significance of some parts were probably lost on me...ANYWAY-
While I believe all stories have a right to be told, I am not sure if this memoir was told in a way that makes it tangible to as many people as it otherwise would have been had it had some editing to exclude certain scenes - though maybe me with my disinterest in other people's sexual experiences just means I'm not the ideal audience for this book. Which is FINE. That being said I definitely saw the purpose of most moments included so don't assume I'm just being prudish here.
Both outside of and during these sexual retellings there was a lot of solid commentary on questionable allyship, the importance of consent, and having to compromise for others due to inexperience and trauma that may arise in even consensual spaces.
It was sad how overall taxing their dating and sex life were/are as a result of existing as both a nonbinary individual and someone reliant on kink (instead of vanilla sex) for proper stimulation; at least, that is how I read it, but they had such patience when it came to these moments that it did keep me engaged in their story instead of completely burned out showing true perseverance despite it all.
Overall an interesting enough first hand account of how one can work through various things through controlled spaces where control can at times appear nonexistent.
Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents by Lindsay C. Gibson
3.0
I didn't realize this was a self-help book I just thought it was about Psychology. No wonder I went from "Drag him!!!" to "Wait why am I the problem?" Either way it was fine listening to it in little bits and pieces.
Among the Bros: A Fraternity Crime Story by Max Marshall
Did not finish book.
Did not finish book.
DNF at 14%, hey Marshall did you have an editor? Like it's just an information vomit. There's no direction or mystery, it's just someone regurgitating information in the least interesting way ever. It almost feels like I am trapped at a dinner party and I indulged a guy to tell me about a wild thing that happened when he was in university but he is so bad at storytelling that I am just screaming internally "GET TO THE POINT ALREADY!!!"
No rating, not worth the energy. I love the cover though! Also can we just admit these are gangs already? Like, exclusive, lacking in diversity, upper class gangs?
No rating, not worth the energy. I love the cover though! Also can we just admit these are gangs already? Like, exclusive, lacking in diversity, upper class gangs?
The Forest of Stolen Girls by June Hur
Did not finish book.
Did not finish book.
DNF at 20%, will revisit eventually but admittedly it is probably just not for me. Like don't quit your day job, Hwani...great writing prose-wise, but like, boring character. I cared about her sister wayyyyy more though I do understand the choice of protagonist.
Death Note: Black Edition, Vol. 2 by Tsugumi Ohba
so real i would also kill light if he came at misa in front of me
also god light continues to be so fucking GOOFY
also god light continues to be so fucking GOOFY