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The Narcissist in Your Life: Recognizing the Patterns and Learning to Break Free by Julie L. Hall
ponasadomas's review
5.0
Before reading "The Narcissist in Your Life: Recognizing the Patterns and Learning to Break Free" by Julie Hall, I never thought I was surrounded by narcissists. I had always blamed myself for other people's actions and believed that I was at fault for the negativity that swirled around me. My therapist, sensing the pain that these thoughts caused me, suggested that I read this book.
At first, I found it incredibly hard to read. I had to stop and digest everything multiple times, as it was like seeing the world without dark shades on my eyes. As I delved deeper into the book, I experienced a rollercoaster of emotions. I was shocked, angry, and sad all at once, as I realized that I was not the one to blame for the toxic relationships I had experienced.
Hall's book opened my eyes to the very thing I was most afraid to see - that it wasn't me, it wasn't my fault. It's just the way they are, and sadly, narcissists won't change. The author offers invaluable insights and guidance on how to recognize the patterns of narcissism and break free from their grip.
This book is not for everyone, and thankfully, most people won't experience the epiphany that I did. However, if you sometimes suspect that maybe it's not always your fault, that maybe your feelings matter too, I urge you to get this book. "The Narcissist in Your Life" might be the most important book you wish you never had to read as well. Julie Hall has provided a lifeline for those caught in the web of narcissism, and her words will undoubtedly change lives for the better.
At first, I found it incredibly hard to read. I had to stop and digest everything multiple times, as it was like seeing the world without dark shades on my eyes. As I delved deeper into the book, I experienced a rollercoaster of emotions. I was shocked, angry, and sad all at once, as I realized that I was not the one to blame for the toxic relationships I had experienced.
Hall's book opened my eyes to the very thing I was most afraid to see - that it wasn't me, it wasn't my fault. It's just the way they are, and sadly, narcissists won't change. The author offers invaluable insights and guidance on how to recognize the patterns of narcissism and break free from their grip.
This book is not for everyone, and thankfully, most people won't experience the epiphany that I did. However, if you sometimes suspect that maybe it's not always your fault, that maybe your feelings matter too, I urge you to get this book. "The Narcissist in Your Life" might be the most important book you wish you never had to read as well. Julie Hall has provided a lifeline for those caught in the web of narcissism, and her words will undoubtedly change lives for the better.
tamarakerm's review against another edition
challenging
hopeful
informative
reflective
fast-paced
5.0
christielacy's review against another edition
4.0
4.5 / Very approachable and informative. Speaks more to children of narcissistic parents than spouses, but that info easily informs other relationships with narcissistic people.
jennog's review against another edition
5.0
Ah narcissists. We all have one in our lives. Namely, Donald J. Trump (a malignant narcissist), who is by far the most extreme, notable narcissist that is constantly in the news and in our faces whether we like it or not. But what about all the other people in our lives?
This book is life changing. It validated my feelings in so many ways. It taught me that a lot of the toxic behaviors and relationships I’ve experienced in my life are due to narcissism and narcissistic tendencies. Of course we all have self-serving, narcissistic tendencies at times, but what about the people who constantly take over our lives with their drama and antics?
This book goes beyond the DSM definition and the stereotypical “narcissist”. This pathological disorder is much more complex than just one type of person. For example, there are malignant narcissists that are usually portrayed on TV and in the media. These are the stereotypical types of people you may think of when you hear the word “narcissist”. Then, there are people who are exhibitionist narcissists and those who are closet narcissists. It turns out the closet narcissist is exactly the type of person I was searching for without knowing what I was searching for. This book answered so many questions for me.
I thought the vignettes and communication examples were particularly helpful in understanding real life stories of narcissism.
I recommend this book to anyone who thinks that someone might be a narcissist. I also recommend this book to anyone who has definitely had a narcissist in their life and needs help coping with it. Even if you think you don’t need this book (denial), chances are it could help you too.
This book is life changing. It validated my feelings in so many ways. It taught me that a lot of the toxic behaviors and relationships I’ve experienced in my life are due to narcissism and narcissistic tendencies. Of course we all have self-serving, narcissistic tendencies at times, but what about the people who constantly take over our lives with their drama and antics?
This book goes beyond the DSM definition and the stereotypical “narcissist”. This pathological disorder is much more complex than just one type of person. For example, there are malignant narcissists that are usually portrayed on TV and in the media. These are the stereotypical types of people you may think of when you hear the word “narcissist”. Then, there are people who are exhibitionist narcissists and those who are closet narcissists. It turns out the closet narcissist is exactly the type of person I was searching for without knowing what I was searching for. This book answered so many questions for me.
I thought the vignettes and communication examples were particularly helpful in understanding real life stories of narcissism.
I recommend this book to anyone who thinks that someone might be a narcissist. I also recommend this book to anyone who has definitely had a narcissist in their life and needs help coping with it. Even if you think you don’t need this book (denial), chances are it could help you too.
cloudy__queer's review against another edition
5.0
Excellent and extremely thorough. I feel much more equipped now.
littlemissanalog's review against another edition
informative
inspiring
reflective
fast-paced
5.0
excellent
informative
helpful
would read again
clear
easy yet powerful read
well-formatted
informative
helpful
would read again
clear
easy yet powerful read
well-formatted