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Against the Loveless World by Susan Abulhawa

14 reviews

proudtobeabookaholic's review against another edition

dark hopeful informative sad slow-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? A mix
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes

5.0

Som 17-åring gifter sig Nahr med grannens son Mhammad, men äktenskapet blir kort när Mhammad en dag bara försvinner. Nahr sätts på hårda prov när hon måste försörja sin lillebror, mamma och farmor.

Jag har läst Susan Abulhawas tidigare två böcker som jag älskat och denna var inget undantag! Jag älskar Abulhawas språk och hon får mig verkligen att vara närvarande i det jag läser. Det ger mig en mer djupgående insikt i hur livet för palestinier kan vara (och är), oavsett var de bor. Hur det är att ständigt leva i exil, när man har ett ben på flera platser utan att känna sig riktigt hemma på något av dem. Jag uppskattar också att få lära känna så mycket av kulturen: kläder, mat, musik, högtider, familjesammansättningar, seder och bruk. Allt utan att det känns som en info-dump, utan helt integrerat i handlingen.

Jag gillar att Nahr inte är undfallande, att hon har skinn på näsan och är intelligent. Ibland blev jag ändå irriterad på en del av hennes beslut, men det bevisar bara att hon är en komplex människa, precis som många är.

Ett citat från boken som fick mig att tänka till:

"Jag märker att reportrar och författare som kommer hit egentligen inte vill lyssna på mig eller få reda på något om mig, förutom sådant som bekräftar den berättelse de redan tror på."

Detta stämmer in på de flesta människor (även mig), det är därför det är så svårt att få någon att ändra åsikt. Istället för att söka mig till den vanliga nyhetsrapporteringen om den nuvarande konflikten i Palestina/Israel, som oftast är pro-israelisk trots att den ska vara oberoende, så vänder jag mig till andra källor (t ex Amnesty) som jag tycker mer överensstämmer med min egen bild. Rätt eller fel? Finns väl inget enkelt svar där heller...

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Confinement, Death, Drug use, Emotional abuse, Genocide, Hate crime, Rape, Torture, Violence, Blood, Police brutality, Antisemitism, Colonisation, and Deportation

Minor: Cancer, Child death, Gun violence, Sexual content, Sexual violence, Excrement, Grief, Abortion, Pregnancy, Fire/Fire injury, and Sexual harassment

aw_nf15's review against another edition

challenging emotional informative tense fast-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? It's complicated
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

5.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Body shaming, Cursing, Death, Emotional abuse, Genocide, Gun violence, Hate crime, Physical abuse, Racism, Rape, Sexism, Sexual assault, Sexual content, Sexual violence, Violence, Forced institutionalization, Blood, Islamophobia, Grief, Religious bigotry, Abortion, Murder, Colonisation, War, and Classism

illustrativemisfit's review against another edition

Too heavy for me for it being a novel. 

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Emotional abuse, Infertility, Misogyny, Rape, Sexual assault, Sexual violence, Violence, Trafficking, Medical trauma, Toxic friendship, and Abandonment

Well written. Great storytelling. maybe if i was in a better place mentally i could have finished it.

ddnreads's review against another edition

challenging dark emotional sad tense fast-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated

5.0

My heart ache for Nahr and Bilal 🥺🥺
But this book is much more than the love story of Nahr and Bilal (eventhough their love is extraordinarily tender and healing). 

Unputdownable and sharp, Against the Loveless World told a life of a woman who tried to find her way among the generational trauma of colonialism, refugee, and occupation. 

I love how the characters are flawed. How bare and jarring they told their lives. I love the raw honesty, the swearing, the curses.

This is a feminist book in its own way. 

I wept for the love mothers share. Their toughness through the worst of conditions. They're the real world's strongest soldiers. 

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Confinement, Cursing, Deadnaming, Domestic abuse, Drug use, Emotional abuse, Genocide, Misogyny, Physical abuse, Racism, Rape, Sexism, Toxic relationship, Violence, Police brutality, Islamophobia, Grief, Murder, Sexual harassment, Colonisation, War, and Deportation

holmahoney's review against another edition

4.5

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Cancer, Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, Genocide, Gore, Gun violence, Hate crime, Infertility, Miscarriage, Physical abuse, Racial slurs, Racism, Torture, Forced institutionalization, Police brutality, Islamophobia, Medical trauma, Car accident, Abortion, Pregnancy, and Colonisation

vanessamariebooks's review against another edition

challenging dark emotional funny hopeful informative sad medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated

5.0

Favorite of the year. Highly recommend, especially for bookclubs or High School English classes. My thoughts here: https://www.youtube.com/live/jHkbo3kEbbg?si=AQwDiPhqLPCpTQey

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Bullying, Death, Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, Homophobia, Physical abuse, Rape, Sexism, Sexual assault, Sexual violence, Torture, Toxic relationship, Violence, Xenophobia, Kidnapping, Grief, Abortion, Toxic friendship, Abandonment, Colonisation, and War

Minor: Ableism, Dementia, Outing, and Cultural appropriation

electrachet's review against another edition

challenging dark emotional hopeful informative inspiring reflective sad fast-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Plot
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated

4.0

To me, this book is not just about the Palestinian experience, but also about the resilience of women in the face of oppression. It explores themes of survival, family, and different types of love. What stood out to me the most was the focus on self-love, as I observed Nahr's journey of developing love for herself and gradually opening up and showing more of her heart. My favorite part of the book was this tenderness of the second-half in Palestine where she was surrounded by love despite great suffering and that love helped her heal from

some of the sexual abuse and trauma of her early life in Kuwait

. Up until that part, I was loosing interest a bit, especially with the lack of nuanced Israeli characters. I understand Israel's crimes and I'm not naive of the role of Israelis in serving a government so callous, especially considering the current assault on Gaza. But I still am wary about what happen when that righteous anger against occupation turns against anyone who is Jewish (esp considering that many of the comments that the side characters make are blurring the lines of antisemitism). I think there was an attempt at nuance with

the introduction of James Baldwin and some of his work and I think it could have been an opportunity for greater insight from the characters or even Nahr since we only got Bilal's perspective

. I think in many places I was really wanting more from Nahr's perspective and what she was really feeling or thinking instead of the stoicism of her older self recounting her memories. Anyways, the last 20 pages were a masterpiece, and I wasn't sure what would happen next. The characters and their relationships felt vivid and real. Nahr, in particular, felt like a genuine person. My only other complaint was that the writing was at times truncated and skipped over plot details, but it was mostly very beautiful. Nahr also had some great quotes and monologues.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Confinement, Sexism, Sexual assault, Sexual violence, Violence, and Colonisation

Moderate: Emotional abuse, Grief, Medical trauma, and Abortion

Minor: Infidelity, Physical abuse, Antisemitism, Schizophrenia/Psychosis , Lesbophobia, Abandonment, War, and Deportation

michelle_my_belle's review against another edition

challenging dark emotional informative inspiring reflective sad tense slow-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? A mix
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? It's complicated
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? No

5.0

This book was so beautifully written. It was historical fiction that also felt so relevant to today. It helped me understand more about the Palestinian history and experience. Nahr's story is so raw and heartbreaking and her strength and resistance was moving. The author uses such powerful imagery and explores the complexities of people in creating characters with so much depth. Most of the time, making them neither good, nor bad, simple human. I will probably be thinking about this book for a long time.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Confinement, Cursing, Death, Emotional abuse, Genocide, Gore, Gun violence, Homophobia, Mental illness, Miscarriage, Misogyny, Physical abuse, Racism, Rape, Sexism, Sexual assault, Sexual content, Sexual violence, Suicidal thoughts, Torture, Violence, Xenophobia, Blood, Excrement, Police brutality, Islamophobia, Medical content, Grief, Medical trauma, Abortion, Death of parent, Pregnancy, Alcohol, Colonisation, and War

Moderate: Cancer

havdic's review against another edition

adventurous challenging dark emotional informative inspiring reflective tense slow-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? A mix
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? No

5.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Confinement, Cursing, Death, Emotional abuse, Genocide, Gun violence, Infidelity, Mental illness, Miscarriage, Physical abuse, Racial slurs, Rape, Sexual assault, Sexual content, Toxic relationship, Violence, Grief, Religious bigotry, Death of parent, Murder, Pregnancy, Colonisation, and War

simolondo's review against another edition

challenging dark emotional informative inspiring reflective sad medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? A mix
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? No

5.0

A must read, especially now given the ongoing genocide but it would have been a must read at any point over the last 75+ years. 

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Alcoholism, Death, Emotional abuse, Genocide, Alcohol, Colonisation, and Deportation