galian84's review against another edition
5.0
I read this book on and off throughout the period of a few months, sometimes getting distracted, sometimes sitting back to reflect on what I had read. For a long time, I thought I might have abandonment issues as a result of my upbringing and many of my early experiences, but it didn't quite hit me until I did something I regretted. I then thought to seek some help because that behavior had become a recurring pattern, and found this book.
It forced me to confront some self-sabotaging, negative behaviors and thought patterns, and forced me to take a good, long hard look at myself, hard as it was to admit. This book it not for passive reading, it will ask you to keep a journal and write things down. I found that immensely helpful to come to terms with sabotaging behaviors. Remember, healing isn't an overnight process. The journey continues, but this book has inspired me to seek out professional therapy to address my abandonment issues and all that's come with it.
Writing is easy to read and the chapters flowed well. The author intersperses her own personal stories that relate to the next topic she's going to talk about.
Two of the biggest things I took away from this: Be like the sky, and your negative thoughts are clouds that you acknowledge and let pass you by. And do the opposite of what you're naturally inclined to do once your core beliefs are triggered.
Great read and I'd recommend it for anyone who suspects they may have abandonment issues, or low self-esteem!
It forced me to confront some self-sabotaging, negative behaviors and thought patterns, and forced me to take a good, long hard look at myself, hard as it was to admit. This book it not for passive reading, it will ask you to keep a journal and write things down. I found that immensely helpful to come to terms with sabotaging behaviors. Remember, healing isn't an overnight process. The journey continues, but this book has inspired me to seek out professional therapy to address my abandonment issues and all that's come with it.
Writing is easy to read and the chapters flowed well. The author intersperses her own personal stories that relate to the next topic she's going to talk about.
Two of the biggest things I took away from this: Be like the sky, and your negative thoughts are clouds that you acknowledge and let pass you by. And do the opposite of what you're naturally inclined to do once your core beliefs are triggered.
Great read and I'd recommend it for anyone who suspects they may have abandonment issues, or low self-esteem!
englishcab's review against another edition
hopeful
informative
inspiring
medium-paced
4.25
Empowering and shame-reducing look at how attachment wounds show up in relationships and how to work on these issues on an individual level. Not LGBTQ inclusive.
aziz_reads's review against another edition
3.0
I received an e-arc of this book through netgalley in exchange for an honest review.
The first impression of this book wasn't good. I felt patronized, as if the author didn't think I was competent enough to grasp a concept the first time around. And in the first few chapters particularly, I learned that there is such a thing as too many commas. If you're going to have that many lists of things just break out the bullet points.
Also, I didn't have any of the tragic, broken childhoods the author thought I MUST have as cause for my emotional sensitivity. I'm just bipolar. It makes its own rules, despite the tremendous amount of love and support I receive and have received from my family over the years.
But you guys know how I feel about workbooks. I. LOVE. WORKBOOKS. I find them neat and orderly and nostalgic of my teen years when everything was simpler. The fictitious anecdotes didn't really hit any chords with me, but did make for a somewhat entertaining read.
Also, despite all that, there were some decent ideas and exercises in this book. There's nothing in here you couldn't find for free online, but if you're more inclined towards physical copies of worksheets that someone else has gone out and found for you, go on and get this book.
The first impression of this book wasn't good. I felt patronized, as if the author didn't think I was competent enough to grasp a concept the first time around. And in the first few chapters particularly, I learned that there is such a thing as too many commas. If you're going to have that many lists of things just break out the bullet points.
Also, I didn't have any of the tragic, broken childhoods the author thought I MUST have as cause for my emotional sensitivity. I'm just bipolar. It makes its own rules, despite the tremendous amount of love and support I receive and have received from my family over the years.
But you guys know how I feel about workbooks. I. LOVE. WORKBOOKS. I find them neat and orderly and nostalgic of my teen years when everything was simpler. The fictitious anecdotes didn't really hit any chords with me, but did make for a somewhat entertaining read.
Also, despite all that, there were some decent ideas and exercises in this book. There's nothing in here you couldn't find for free online, but if you're more inclined towards physical copies of worksheets that someone else has gone out and found for you, go on and get this book.
lttlegel's review against another edition
4.0
This book is helpful for anyone who has fear of abandonment due to lack of trust and or emotional distress from past relationships, especially family relationships where the damage is done at a young age. It teaches you how to think and react differently in order to build and maintain longer lasting, healthier relationships with people you love.
burcubasol's review against another edition
1.0
I’m disappointed in this book. I quit after few pages because it’s in constant loop book is trying to explain a lot about what we can find in this book.It is so distracting and makes hard to get into book.It's not long book although still it has lots of unnecessary pages because of repeating and unnecessary words I might try to finish later maybe but I wouldn’t recommend this book to anyone.
Update: I finished it nothing changed.Not helpful.
Update: I finished it nothing changed.Not helpful.
happinessbeginswithabook's review against another edition
5.0
This book was a tad more geared toward romantic relationships, but I read it more so for my friendships. It was perfect for my situation and struggles. I highly recommend if you have a struggle with rejection from friends or fear losing people. It was short and sweet and gave you active tools to help you fight against this fear. It’s not perfect as I am a bit of a skeptic of self-help books and would want to fact check some things said in here, but this book was written 100% for me and for that I give it 5 stars.
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