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Reviews tagging 'Fatphobia'
How to Talk so Kids Will Listen and Listen so Kids Will Talk by Elaine Mazlish, Adele Faber
2 reviews
gladiolus17's review against another edition
emotional
funny
informative
reflective
sad
medium-paced
4.5
Fabulously informative. I don’t have kids yet, but this gives me an idea on how to manage them.Â
I tried to describe one of my boyfriend’s achievements rather than give him an evaluative compliment. It worked, even on an adult! Also, I find it goes a lot better when I validate his feelings first than rather jump straight into giving advice when things are tough on him.
The one problem is that the book is outdated when it comes to feeding kids. It gets right that kids should have autonomy when eating, but no, you should not hide sweets or keep sweets out of the house so they won’t eat them. The problem is that they view sweets as ‘better’ than other foods, so that’s why they crave it. They need to learn that all foods are equal and take it from an intuitive eating perspective. Take a look at Ellyn Satter’s Division of Responsibility for an in-depth look.
I tried to describe one of my boyfriend’s achievements rather than give him an evaluative compliment. It worked, even on an adult! Also, I find it goes a lot better when I validate his feelings first than rather jump straight into giving advice when things are tough on him.
The one problem is that the book is outdated when it comes to feeding kids. It gets right that kids should have autonomy when eating, but no, you should not hide sweets or keep sweets out of the house so they won’t eat them. The problem is that they view sweets as ‘better’ than other foods, so that’s why they crave it. They need to learn that all foods are equal and take it from an intuitive eating perspective. Take a look at Ellyn Satter’s Division of Responsibility for an in-depth look.
Content Warnings
Moderate: Fatphobia
sbaker's review against another edition
informative
fast-paced
3.5
This book can help you rethink how you communicate with your kid and has lots of excellent tips with scenarios. Because it was written in the 80s, there are some issues. There are several parents in the book who were clearly abusing their children emotionally and physically, often in a way that was more acceptable then but clearly not okay. Also, the attitudes toward food and body size are awful. These situations pop up occasionally and are a real turn off (maybe also triggering for some readers), but there is some good content as well, which is why this book is still often recommended. I got good lessons out of it despite how dated some of it is.Â
Content Warnings
Graphic: Fatphobia
Minor: Body shaming, Child abuse, and Fatphobia
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