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periparaparasakura's review against another edition
She writes without soul, like an AI filled with anecdotes that had no character or personal input.聽
hope2023's review against another edition
informative
slow-paced
4.0
An interesting anthropological survey of mating and relationship habits charting to modern times.聽 Dr. Fisher presents a fascinating chronology and includes interesting tidbits of fresh information that were a revelation.聽 I thought she summed up her findings well.聽
asialew's review against another edition
2.0
Mam mn贸stwo uwag do tej ksi膮偶ki. Mocno si臋 zastanawia艂am, czy nie da膰 jej jednej gwiazdki, ale si臋 powstrzyma艂am ze wzgl臋du na ca艂kiem rozs膮dnie brzmi膮c膮 cz臋艣膰 wniosk贸w z ostatniego rozdzia艂u. Ma multum przypis贸w, co si臋 bardzo chwali. Natomiast zdecydowan膮 wi臋kszo艣膰 wniosk贸w samej autorki warto potraktowa膰 z du偶ym dystansem i bardzo krytycznie. Nowe wydanie "Anatomii mi艂o艣ci" zosta艂o w Polsce wydane w 2017, a przez te 4 lata ksi膮偶ka strasznie si臋 zestarza艂a. Czasem nie by艂am pewna, czy fragment, kt贸ry czytam, nie pochodzi z poprzedniej wersji ksi膮偶ki, sprzed 30 lat. Ksi膮偶ka prezentuje mega heteronormatywn膮 perspektyw臋, kt贸ra pr贸buje znale藕膰 pewne uniwersalne prawdy dotycz膮ce mi艂o艣ci, wtr膮caj膮c w dw贸ch miejscach ksi膮偶ki, 偶e w sumie osoby homoseksualne maj膮 podobnie. O transp艂ciowo艣ci nie ma nawet wzmianki, ca艂a ksi膮偶ka przyjmuje istnienie dw贸ch p艂ci. Wiem, 偶e przez ostatnie kilka lat 艣wiadomo艣膰 transp艂ciowo艣ci zdecydowanie si臋 zmienia, ale skoro wspomniano o osobach homoseksualnych, to zupe艂nie pomini臋cie transp艂ciowo艣ci i niebinarno艣ci uwa偶am za znacz膮ce. W og贸le mam wra偶enie, 偶e to uniwersalistycznej podej艣cie do mi艂o艣ci kompletnie si臋 obecnie dezaktualizuje. Autorka pr贸buje przez ca艂膮 ksi膮偶k臋 przekona膰 czytelnik贸w do swojej tezy, 偶e ludzie s膮 z natury seryjnie monogamicznymi cudzo艂o偶nikami, specjalnie dobieraj膮c przyk艂ady potwierdzaj膮ce jej zdanie, a czasem wr臋cz czyni膮c jakie艣 logiczne fiko艂ki i co艣 tam sobie rozwa偶aj膮c ("mo偶e nasi przodkowie mieli tak? a mo偶e tak? pewnie tak" aha, dzi臋ki). Natomiast je艣li przyjrze膰 si臋 przekazywanym przez ni膮 tre艣ciom krytycznie, czasem mieszaj膮 one poj臋cia, tworz膮 nadmierne uog贸lnienia, a autorka dochodzi do wniosk贸w, kt贸re bardzo 艂atwo obali膰, nawet podpieraj膮c si臋 podawanymi przez ni膮 przyk艂adami. Chocia偶 ksi膮偶ka wydaje si臋 do艣膰 porz膮dn膮 ceg艂膮, spor膮 cz臋艣膰 zajmuj膮 konserwatywne i mononormatywne pogl膮dy autorki, pomijaj膮ce w og贸le ludzk膮 r贸偶norodno艣膰. Dodatkowo, czasem autorka sugeruje, jakoby ewolucja cz艂owieka zatrzyma艂a si臋 kilkaset tysi臋cy lat temu. By艂oby to osobliwe, bo obecnie przyznaje si臋, 偶e skutki ci膮gle trwaj膮cej ewolucji gatunk贸w mo偶na dostrzec ju偶 po 30 pokoleniach, czyli w przypadku cz艂owieka po jakich艣 900 latach. "Anatomi臋 mi艂o艣ci" uwa偶am za ksi膮偶k臋 momentami wr臋cz szkodliw膮, bo niezbyt krytyczny czytelnik sugeruj膮cy si臋 do艣wiadczeniem naukowym autorki i liczb膮 przypis贸w mo偶e uzna膰 jej opinie za jednoznacznie potwierdzone badaniami, przy czym w wielu miejscach s膮 to raczej lu藕ne rozwa偶ania. Po przeczytaniu tej ksi膮偶ki czuj臋 si臋 wr臋cz zra偶ona do antropologii jako dziedziny nauki, chocia偶 pozostaje we mnie iskierka nadziei, 偶e m艂odsi antropologowie przejawiaj膮 bardziej otwarte pogl膮dy ni偶 Helen Fisher i nie ca艂a ta nauka polega na lu藕nych wnioskach opartych na wybranych przez siebie dowodach. Po tym, jak polubi艂am autork臋 za 艣wietne TED Talki, czuj臋 si臋 zawiedziona t膮 ksi膮偶k膮 i oszukana dobrym wra偶eniem, jakie zrobi艂a na mnie niegdy艣 Helen Fisher. Polecam t臋 pozycje jedynie ciekawym i krytycznym czytelnikom potrafi膮cym zachowa膰 stoicki spok贸j. Albo konserwatywnym osobom, kt贸re szukaj膮 lektury, kt贸ra wpasuje si臋 w ich obraz 艣wiata. Tylko takim nie za mocno konserwatywnym, bo mog膮 si臋 zdziwi膰, 偶e dla gatunku ludzkiego za norm臋 uwa偶a膰 mo偶na wi臋cej ni偶 jednego partnera w 偶yciu i zdrad臋, a osoby homoseksualne kochaj膮 tak samo jak heteroseksualne (szok i niedowierzanie!).
tjoliverbooks's review against another edition
2.0
This survey, ranging over a large territory of both human and animal behaviors, both grabbed and annoyed me. Reading Fisher's speculations, regardless of my own agreements or disagreements, provided a bit of value for me not the least because it showed me how great research can be undermined by poorly formed conclusions. One must be careful. I found chapters 1-6 & 16 highly interesting and appreciate the inclusion of detailed notes on sources. I recommend that readers, wh0've taken time to grapple with this book, follow her speculations with a grain of salt. What is love? How do our genes influence our relationships? Are humans naturally monogamous? Great topics, but form your own conclusions based off the presented evidence.
cneiman's review against another edition
4.0
This was an interesting, if somewhat unsettling, read. In all honesty, I would recommend Dr. Fisher's 2006 TED talk--which was very compelling and succinct--over her book. She's able to elaborate more on the technical details of her work in "Anatomy of Love," and while she never loses focus on her thesis that humans have and always will fall in love, stray, and fall in love again, the poignancy of the whole process is somehow mitigated. I felt a little hollow after finishing the final chapter, although I'll be thinking about the book's contents for some time to come.
A word of warning: don't try reading this shortly before or after "He's Just Not That Into You." HJNTIY places an emphasis on fidelity in all successful relationships; AoL makes a pretty convincing case that most relationships are not permanent and that cheating is coded into our DNA. If you're at a place in your life where you can make space for both, awesome. If not, enjoy and embrace one at a time.
A word of warning: don't try reading this shortly before or after "He's Just Not That Into You." HJNTIY places an emphasis on fidelity in all successful relationships; AoL makes a pretty convincing case that most relationships are not permanent and that cheating is coded into our DNA. If you're at a place in your life where you can make space for both, awesome. If not, enjoy and embrace one at a time.
twylghast's review against another edition
3.0
This book was interesting, but a bit boring and repetitive at times; it was kind of a drag to get through towards the end. Plus, it ended so abruptly, I got whiplash. That's what happens sometimes when you read stuff on e-readers, but still...it came out of nowhere.
tjoliverbooks's review against another edition
2.0
This survey, ranging over a large territory of both human and animal behaviors, both grabbed and annoyed me. Reading Fisher's speculations, regardless of my own agreements or disagreements, provided a bit of value for me not the least because it showed me how great research can be undermined by poorly formed conclusions. One must be careful. I found chapters 1-6 & 16 highly interesting and appreciate the inclusion of detailed notes on sources. I recommend that readers, wh0've taken time to grapple with this book, follow her speculations with a grain of salt. What is love? How do our genes influence our relationships? Are humans naturally monogamous? Great topics, but form your own conclusions based off the presented evidence.
pattireadsalot's review against another edition
3.0
I picked this up on the recommendation of Rebecca Schinsky from Book Riot. As a psychology major, she always seeks out smart nonfiction titles. Fisher originally published this in 1992, and while I had wanted to read that edition for some time, the online dating and texting environment of modern times has made many parts obsolete. In the prologue, Fisher admits that most of this book is new.
Quick note: Don't let the length of this text put you off. It's technically only 320 pages, with the last 130 pages devoted to Appendices, Notes, Bibliography, and a couple fun quizzes if you're interested. All par for the course when science is involved, man!
Fisher's prominence as a biological anthropologist allows her to give in-depth detail on the mating habits and courtship of early hominins millions of years ago, as well as comparisons to loving behaviors of wide-ranging species.The cultural experiences that affect romance- determining whom you love, where, and when- were quite fascinating, as well as the reasons that the Seven Year Itch phenomenon is biologically more like the 3-4 year itch. This book will give you a case of the "Did you knows?" One more neat (and kind of annoying fact)....did you know that going from traveling on all fours to bipedalism in the jungle made carrying infants more difficult, thus forcing females to become more reliant on men for food procurement while they "stayed home" with their young? Way to reduce an even hunting partnership! Walking on two feet instead of all fours had many benefits though, so I'm mostly okay with it...ha.
The informative ways in which she discusses humanity's evolution from four broad, basic styles of thinking (each associated with one of four brain systems: dopamine, serotonin, testosterone, and estrogen) provided explanation to all the "chemical" talk you hear thrown around concerning infatuation and love.
There is a lot of repetition, but that worked for me since science isn't my strong point, and hearing details multiple times helped the absorption of material. There were sections I found tedious and skimmed only briefly. While some of the info isn't surprising, I did find the positive outlook she has on the future of dating (with the prevalence of I-phones and dating apps) surprising. This made me breathe a bit easier as I have girls who will be navigating this territory in the upcoming years. I would recommend to anyone who has a strong interest in this subject, but might pick up a more anecdotal book if not.
Quick note: Don't let the length of this text put you off. It's technically only 320 pages, with the last 130 pages devoted to Appendices, Notes, Bibliography, and a couple fun quizzes if you're interested. All par for the course when science is involved, man!
Fisher's prominence as a biological anthropologist allows her to give in-depth detail on the mating habits and courtship of early hominins millions of years ago, as well as comparisons to loving behaviors of wide-ranging species.The cultural experiences that affect romance- determining whom you love, where, and when- were quite fascinating, as well as the reasons that the Seven Year Itch phenomenon is biologically more like the 3-4 year itch. This book will give you a case of the "Did you knows?" One more neat (and kind of annoying fact)....did you know that going from traveling on all fours to bipedalism in the jungle made carrying infants more difficult, thus forcing females to become more reliant on men for food procurement while they "stayed home" with their young? Way to reduce an even hunting partnership! Walking on two feet instead of all fours had many benefits though, so I'm mostly okay with it...ha.
The informative ways in which she discusses humanity's evolution from four broad, basic styles of thinking (each associated with one of four brain systems: dopamine, serotonin, testosterone, and estrogen) provided explanation to all the "chemical" talk you hear thrown around concerning infatuation and love.
There is a lot of repetition, but that worked for me since science isn't my strong point, and hearing details multiple times helped the absorption of material. There were sections I found tedious and skimmed only briefly. While some of the info isn't surprising, I did find the positive outlook she has on the future of dating (with the prevalence of I-phones and dating apps) surprising. This made me breathe a bit easier as I have girls who will be navigating this territory in the upcoming years. I would recommend to anyone who has a strong interest in this subject, but might pick up a more anecdotal book if not.
kaylal's review against another edition
3.0
Pretty cool anthropological study of love, attraction, lust, and infidelity. I love how Fisher brings in prehistorical people and the little evidence we have about their lives to bring our own present into focus. I could see where people would grab this thinking it's a book about modern love, but she brings in a lot of history and a very anthropological analysis. The title is pretty sexy, but the book is pretty damn nerdy, which I liked. It did feel a little repetitive or drawn out at times.
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