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blissfullycurious11's review against another edition
3.0
3.5/5
This book was very informative and validating. So many great takeaways. I am extremely grateful for the last chapter explaining how to interact with these individuals going forward. I do feel like the author did make the emotionally immature parents out to be really terrible villains. I think it lacked empathy seeing them as human beings who ALSO had emotionally immature parents. It didn’t touch on this vicious cycle as much as I would have liked. But overall a good read.
This book was very informative and validating. So many great takeaways. I am extremely grateful for the last chapter explaining how to interact with these individuals going forward. I do feel like the author did make the emotionally immature parents out to be really terrible villains. I think it lacked empathy seeing them as human beings who ALSO had emotionally immature parents. It didn’t touch on this vicious cycle as much as I would have liked. But overall a good read.
dingokitty14's review against another edition
informative
reflective
fast-paced
4.0
The perfect book for somebody who wants to go to therapy but can’t afford it.
rissaoffline's review against another edition
3.0
I started this book two years ago and finally finished the last few chapters now, in 2024. I think it was more helpful at the beginning, though I'm pretty skeptical of the internalizer/externalizer dichotomy the book proposes and shifts blame between. Human behavior isn't that binary.
Definitely one of those grain of salt books, especially if you are healed enough that most of this book feels like old news or if you're aware of more literature and research in developmental trauma/neglect (or even developmental neurobiology). Or maybe my shitty childhood was beyond the scope of simply "distant, rejecting, or self-involved parents." There's still some good material and exercises in here, but some require having had peace in a childhood at all - less useful if your developmental abuse and neglect started before your living memory. I guess that's why we have EMDR and IFS and other somatic therapies and relational healing models.
It's a good starter book to knock you into awareness if you're living deeply in denial - that's its scope, and it does that well.
Definitely one of those grain of salt books, especially if you are healed enough that most of this book feels like old news or if you're aware of more literature and research in developmental trauma/neglect (or even developmental neurobiology). Or maybe my shitty childhood was beyond the scope of simply "distant, rejecting, or self-involved parents." There's still some good material and exercises in here, but some require having had peace in a childhood at all - less useful if your developmental abuse and neglect started before your living memory. I guess that's why we have EMDR and IFS and other somatic therapies and relational healing models.
It's a good starter book to knock you into awareness if you're living deeply in denial - that's its scope, and it does that well.
warishak's review against another edition
challenging
dark
emotional
hopeful
informative
sad
tense
medium-paced
5.0
It helped me learn so much about myself
wybrooke's review against another edition
5.0
“She wasn’t overreacting; she was having a normal response to an emotional injury.”
So enlightening and healing.
So enlightening and healing.
muhfknunicorn's review against another edition
challenging
emotional
informative
reflective
slow-paced
3.0
It’s a hard read so take breaks and listen to your body.
verabklover's review against another edition
2.0
some interesting thoughts, but this is a book for those who are just starting and knows absolutely nothing about psychology. also it doesn't talk about neurodivergency, so it doesn't address the root problem
heykelan's review against another edition
5.0
What is there to say about this book other than if you have even an inkling that it's for you, then it is.
celly's review against another edition
emotional
hopeful
informative
inspiring
reflective
slow-paced
5.0
Cause for some introspection, that I appreciate