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10 Minutes 38 Seconds in This Strange World by Elif Shafak
24 reviews
milliminal's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? A mix
- Strong character development? It's complicated
- Loveable characters? Yes
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated
3.75
The concept, the narrative, the cast of diverse characters and stories, the vivid and immersive descriptions of Istanbul
What I disliked:
The sheer amount of trauma, which almost started feeling like sensationalism, especially when accompanied with little to no reflection on it. (I wish I had read the trigger warnings before hand.) How much the first part slogged in comparison to the second and third parts.
It was a good read but does not make me motivated to read other works by Shafak.
Graphic: Adult/minor relationship, Alcoholism, Child abuse, Child death, Chronic illness, Confinement, Death, Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, Incest, Infertility, Miscarriage, Misogyny, Pedophilia, Rape, Sexism, Sexual assault, Sexual content, Sexual violence, Transphobia, Violence, Blood, Grief, Religious bigotry, Murder, Pregnancy, and Sexual harassment
Moderate: Ableism, Animal cruelty, Body horror, Body shaming, Bullying, Cursing, Deadnaming, Drug abuse, Drug use, Eating disorder, Fatphobia, Gore, Homophobia, Infertility, Mental illness, Panic attacks/disorders, Physical abuse, Racism, Self harm, Sexism, Suicidal thoughts, Suicide, Terminal illness, Torture, Transphobia, Police brutality, Medical content, Trafficking, Medical trauma, Stalking, Car accident, Suicide attempt, Outing, Abandonment, Alcohol, Dysphoria, and Injury/Injury detail
leahrosiee's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? It's complicated
- Loveable characters? Yes
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
3.5
Graphic: Child abuse, Death, Emotional abuse, Homophobia, Incest, Infertility, Misogyny, Pedophilia, Rape, Self harm, Sexual assault, Violence, Blood, Grief, Murder, Pregnancy, Gaslighting, Alcohol, and Injury/Injury detail
verityshillabeer's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? Yes
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
5.0
The concept was great and original, and executed perfectly.
Part one was structured very well, but part two has a very different tone. It's more adventurous and light hearted even though the plot isn't anymore lighthearted than part one. Still, it was an enjoyable and thought provoking read - the characters were lovely and the idea that cognition can contiue for a bit after death is really interesting and believeable.
Graphic: Child abuse, Emotional abuse, Incest, Miscarriage, Pedophilia, and Grief
Moderate: Adult/minor relationship
lenanin99's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? It's complicated
- Loveable characters? Yes
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated
5.0
Moderate: Emotional abuse, Rape, and Sexual harassment
rashi's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? Yes
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
3.25
Graphic: Adult/minor relationship, Child abuse, Deadnaming, Emotional abuse, Mental illness, Pedophilia, Rape, Self harm, Sexual assault, Sexual violence, Violence, Trafficking, Murder, Abandonment, and Sexual harassment
lis_alouny's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? It's complicated
- Loveable characters? Yes
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated
5.0
Moderate: Death, Emotional abuse, Mental illness, Trafficking, Grief, and Gaslighting
roseraindrops's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? Yes
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? No
4.75
This book was very different from anything I have ever decided to read before, and although at points I felt deep hatred and disgust for some of the characters and a bleak sense of sadness and helplessness, I think this book is actually very important and delves into so many important, contemporary issues through Leila, and her perhaps unlikely, ragtag group of friends. I mean, just from the content warnings alone you can see that this is not for someone looking for a lighthearted read, but although uncomfortable at times, Shafak beautifully tells the stories of the lives of the outcasts in Istanbul:
- 'Tequila' Leila - the main character who is a dead sex worker reflecting on her life, she has self-harmed, been sexually abused, has had her brother die due to his severe Down's syndrome and has a mother who suffers from extreme mental health issues, partly due to multiple stillbirths. She is hopeful, adventurous and kind, and makes an assortment of friends to build up her own 'found family':
- D/Ali - an artist and 'revolutionary' male university student
- Zaynab122 - a highly religious Muslim woman, originally from Lebanon, has dwarfism and works as a cleaner in Leila's brothel
"Religion for her had always been a source of hope, resilience and love - a lift that carried her up from the basement of darkness into a spiritual light. It pained her that the same lift could just as easily take others all the way down. The teachings that warmed her heart and brought her closer to all humanity, regardless of creed, colour or nationality, could be interpreted in such a way that they divided, confused and seperated human beings, sowing seeds of emnity and bloodshed." (272)
- Jameelah - a woman who was trafficked for sexual exploitation from Somalia, has an eating disorder
- 'Sabotage' Sinan - a son of a single mother and childhood friend to Leila, debatably the only 'respectable' member of the group as a well established, married man with children and a good, well-paying job. However, has a disconnection from his double life with his outcast friends compared to his family.
- Hollywood Humeyra - a woman who escaped an abusive marriage to become a singer/dancer in Istanbul, suffers from many health issues
- Nostalgia Nalan - a dyslexic, atheist trans-woman working in the streets as a sex worker/in clubs
"Nalan thought that one of the endless tragedies of human history was that pessimists were better at surviving than optimists, which meant that, logically speaking, humanity carried the genes of people who did not believe in humanity" (306)
This book has 3 main parts, all stylistically very different:
Part 1 - The Mind: this is the longest section all bought together through the use of the clock, like a countdown in which Leila relives her memories, starting from her birth right up to her murder. I listened to an interview with Shafak, and she bases this clock literary technique on recent scientific research into how long the brain stays active after death.
Part 2 - The Body: here we follow Leila's friends as they try to properly put her body to rest as she would have wanted - the style dramatically changes here to become an odd blend of grief and humour with drunken car chases and digging up and falling into graves. I found this section a bit bizarre to be honest but it still had some really interesting concepts based on real-life events/places in Istanbul eg. the cemetery of the companionless
Part 3 - The Soul: this is only a few pages but a good ending - I wouldn't say it's hopeful enough to counter the despair and tragedy throughout the book but Leila finds peace.
"Her mind had fully shut down, her body was already decomposing and her soul was chasing a betta fish" (304)
I enjoyed the descriptive writing style throughout - it wasn't over the top but especially in section 1, everything flowed beautifully. With recalling previously hidden memories, Shafak focuses on tiny details/imagery and especially smells to focus on and start every different recollection with, creating a distinct tone for each memory. The city of Istanbul is also described in such detail, it almost plays a role as a character in the novel - it has a distinct personality as a place of such stark contrasts and oppositions.
"Sometimes where you feel most safe is where you least belong" (20)
I must admit that although I understand the purpose of the nicknames and a way for them to reclaim their identities etc. I found it was sometimes overused unnecessarily and a bit cringy in the very reflective and meaningful scenes.
This point is completely my bad but I did not realise there was a glossary at the back! In retaining some of the authentic dialogue, occasionally there is a word or phrase from the original language that has been used so a pro tip from me - definitely use the back instead of looking it up lol. 😂😅
Graphic: Child abuse, Death, Infertility, Mental illness, Miscarriage, Rape, Sexual assault, Transphobia, Violence, Police brutality, Trafficking, Grief, Murder, and Schizophrenia/Psychosis
Moderate: Domestic abuse, Misogyny, Self harm, Transphobia, and Kidnapping
Minor: Ableism, Drug use, Emotional abuse, Gun violence, Infidelity, Panic attacks/disorders, Sexual content, Pregnancy, and Alcohol
wildwonderer's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? It's complicated
- Loveable characters? Yes
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? No
4.0
Minor: Adult/minor relationship, Child death, Death, Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, Mental illness, Miscarriage, Misogyny, Rape, Sexism, Sexual assault, Trafficking, Grief, Murder, and Pregnancy
creepycrawlybookworm's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? It's complicated
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
4.5
Graphic: Emotional abuse, Hate crime, and Pedophilia
Moderate: Child death, Death, Homophobia, Mental illness, Miscarriage, Rape, Self harm, Sexual assault, Xenophobia, and Grief
Minor: Addiction, Panic attacks/disorders, Police brutality, Trafficking, and Religious bigotry
blackismajestic's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? It's complicated
- Loveable characters? Yes
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
4.0
Graphic: Child abuse and Violence
Moderate: Sexual assault and Transphobia
Minor: Domestic abuse and Emotional abuse