kfrederici's review
5.0
5 stars! I learned so much about my past and current relationships in this book. Several of my past relationships were avoidant, and it all makes more sense now. I will continue to study this topic of adult attachment styles!
angechen's review
4.0
book was made for those with anxious attachment styles (and those with secure ones trying to understand other styles), so for me, it was incredibly validating.
ngl, some of the anxious-avoidant relationship examples sounded emotionally abusive & unacceptable regardless of security, but I suppose the point is to communicate needs early and leave if these needs stay unmet
some fun quotes
“Attachment principles teach us that most people are only as needy as their unmet needs. When their emotional needs are met, and the earlier the better, they usually turn their attention outward. This is sometimes referred to in attachment literature as the “dependency paradox”: The more effectively dependent people are on one another, the more independent and daring they become.”
“When you meet someone new, the probability that they have an avoidant attachment style is high—much higher than their relative size in the population—25 percent. Not only are they recycled back into the dating pool more quickly, but they are not dating one another (at least not for long), nor are they dating secure people, that much because secures are less available. Who are they meeting? That’s right: You and other potential partners with an anxious attachment style.”
areeba_aoun's review
challenging
emotional
informative
inspiring
reflective
tense
medium-paced
4.25
damn, it was one hell of a ride. Made me introspect and contemplate on so much! Figured out my own attachment style and realized the behaviour patterns of my former 'immature' lovers( just kidding- well I am not :/).
allenashlee02's review
5.0
Listened to this book on Audible and ended up asking my husband to listen too. It was so interesting and greatly improved my relationship.
tessazwaan's review
4.0
Een super zinnig boek als je relaties of situaties steeds op een pijnlijke en random manier eindigen en je niet snapt waarom je steeds hetzelfde patroon lijkt te volgen