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liestef's review
4.0
When I suspected a close friend might be suffering from a form of narcissism, I desperately sought ways to help her recover.
What I discovered with this book was that it was ME who was suffering from her.
This book opened my mind and taught me to understand why she is the way she is, and that it is NOT my fault - that I was merely her punchbag.
I read it in a few hours because I could not put it down, and I can honestly say that it has completely changed the way I think, and now I will approach her in a different manner.
This is a must-read for anyone who has any relationship or dealings with a narcissist.
You are NOT going crazy. I guess I needed to see that in print before I actually believed it.
What I discovered with this book was that it was ME who was suffering from her.
This book opened my mind and taught me to understand why she is the way she is, and that it is NOT my fault - that I was merely her punchbag.
I read it in a few hours because I could not put it down, and I can honestly say that it has completely changed the way I think, and now I will approach her in a different manner.
This is a must-read for anyone who has any relationship or dealings with a narcissist.
You are NOT going crazy. I guess I needed to see that in print before I actually believed it.
xclairelaurel's review
challenging
informative
medium-paced
3.75
I think some of the solutions to handling narcissists especially in the workplace was not really solutions as it was more so avoiding discomfort and persecution from the narcissistic by pandering to them. Everything else from the book was interesting and in ways, informative.
gabrielanotmoura's review against another edition
4.0
This read more like a textbook than I would’ve liked but I still found it very informative and would recommend it.
genderqueer_hiker's review
3.0
tl;dr
I'd highly recommend the sections about personally dealing with narcissists (as that's what her training is in), but skip over her personal rants about cultural narcissism (in which she has no expertise).
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I enjoyed reading many sections of this book. The author seems knowledgeable and approachable in regards to identifying narcissists in daily life, elements generally present in narcissists' childhoods, and practical ways to deal with them. However, I did not appreciate her perspectives on current culture. She makes broad, inaccurate statements about how our culture creates narcissists - honestly, it ended up sounding like a Baby Boomer whining about the evils of millennials and how 'selfies are ruining the world.' It was grating and didn't fit within the scope of the book. And a personal pet peeve of mine - she would present research and make statements about how the research clearly highlighted her point, when she conveniently ignored a metric ton of confounding factors and jumped to conclusions the research didn't actually indicate.
I'd highly recommend the sections about personally dealing with narcissists (as that's what her training is in), but skip over her personal rants about cultural narcissism (in which she has no expertise).
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I enjoyed reading many sections of this book. The author seems knowledgeable and approachable in regards to identifying narcissists in daily life, elements generally present in narcissists' childhoods, and practical ways to deal with them. However, I did not appreciate her perspectives on current culture. She makes broad, inaccurate statements about how our culture creates narcissists - honestly, it ended up sounding like a Baby Boomer whining about the evils of millennials and how 'selfies are ruining the world.' It was grating and didn't fit within the scope of the book. And a personal pet peeve of mine - she would present research and make statements about how the research clearly highlighted her point, when she conveniently ignored a metric ton of confounding factors and jumped to conclusions the research didn't actually indicate.
ropey's review
informative
This book offers a well-cited and digestible insight into Narcissism and how to identify its symptoms around and within us. It is good for those looking to be informed about this topic without being overwhelmed by medical jargon. Although nothing beats professional help (and this book does not claim to be its alternative), it provides ample guidance on how to proceed should we find ourselves around a narcissistic environment or identify narcissistic qualities within ourselves.