merikweni's review against another edition
5.0
I've read this book once and I got really bored. I didn't even finish it the first time and just dropped it. 2 years later, I was so heartbroken to the core, I was down and couldn’t function well. I decided to drag myself to the bookstore to lift my mood up. I've been on reading slump for more than 4 months and I thought of going back to what I really love, getting lost and be crazy over awesome stories. I picked up a couple of books that I want to read and I saw this. I did not hesitate to grab it and gave it a second chance. This time I finally enjoyed this and realized the essence of this book. I couldn’t not see it then, but now I know what went wrong in my last relationship and how submissive I was and how easy I was taken advantage of. I was so happy and thankful that this self-help book made me realize my worth again. :)
scrapbook's review
1.0
Blinkist did the best or the worst job at summarizing this book I'll never know lol.
meloworld's review against another edition
4.0
Truly remarkable self-help book! I highly recommend this.
annemariewellswriter's review against another edition
4.0
TL;DR Horrific title, heteronormative language, but actually not awful insights on self-empowerment.
I think this title is horrific, and I hope to god that Sherry was made to change her original title because publishers thought this title more eye-catching or something. It should be "From Doormat to Your OWN FUCKING HERO BECAUSE YOU DONT NEED A GODDAMN MAN TO LIVE YOUR GODDAMN LIFE." But since the book focused on relationships and not independence and self-reliance, you are made to believe that being someone's dreamgirl should be your end goal.
Besides the atrocious title and being completely heteronormative, I think the overall message is a good one. Argov wants to empower women and to teach women how to stand up for themselves while dating. She wants to help women navigate their own desires while understanding that we want to impress a potential partner and be kind and also not exhaust ourselves or drive ourselves into the ground with unmanageable self- and partner-driven expectations.
There was some really solid advice for anybody to not be taken advantage of and to recognize the signs of potential emotional abuse, using, and gaslighting. I was recommended to read this book by a fellow feminist and to ignore the awful title. After I read this book, I definitely kept my wants and needs more in the forefront of my psyche in relationships, and use techniques from this book to stand up for myself and to make clear what I'm willing to put into a relationship and what I am not willing.
I think this title is horrific, and I hope to god that Sherry was made to change her original title because publishers thought this title more eye-catching or something. It should be "From Doormat to Your OWN FUCKING HERO BECAUSE YOU DONT NEED A GODDAMN MAN TO LIVE YOUR GODDAMN LIFE." But since the book focused on relationships and not independence and self-reliance, you are made to believe that being someone's dreamgirl should be your end goal.
Besides the atrocious title and being completely heteronormative, I think the overall message is a good one. Argov wants to empower women and to teach women how to stand up for themselves while dating. She wants to help women navigate their own desires while understanding that we want to impress a potential partner and be kind and also not exhaust ourselves or drive ourselves into the ground with unmanageable self- and partner-driven expectations.
There was some really solid advice for anybody to not be taken advantage of and to recognize the signs of potential emotional abuse, using, and gaslighting. I was recommended to read this book by a fellow feminist and to ignore the awful title. After I read this book, I definitely kept my wants and needs more in the forefront of my psyche in relationships, and use techniques from this book to stand up for myself and to make clear what I'm willing to put into a relationship and what I am not willing.
impassionskin's review
3.0
Sure, the advice is "helpful," but I couldn't help but feel a sense of hopelessness and forlorn. It's unfortunate that most men have to be manipulated into respecting women.