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lnlee78's review
Title is pretty misleading. I treated it as more of a self-help book b/c someone recommended it to me as a way to break out of my own toxic patterns, codependency, trauma, etc. There are some chapters that didn't resonate but the ones that did really helped me (esp the parts about childhood traumas, self reliance, and communication--which I know I have a hard time with). The stories about people the author knows also helped me feel less alone. I didn't do most of the activities but some of the content was good food for thought as I reflected on past relationship mistakes, etc. I felt more self-aware and hopeful when I finished the book, which is more than enough for me tbh.
judica's review
3.0
A book that asks hard questions, the sort of hard questions that you normally squirm away from, but asks gently and carefully. A book about growing. A book that I have put in my calendar to reread--and considering the size of my to-read list, that's quite a compliment.
alyjay's review
4.0
I feel like reading something with a title this embarrassing is part of the process
tiffanylooksat's review
5.0
I highly recommend this book to anyone feeling lost in love, coming out of a bad breakup, finding themselves making the same mistakes in relationships, choosing the same wrong type of partner repeatedly, etc. This is a 7-week workbook who's title I find misleading. This book is not so much about 'calling in the one' as it is about preparing yourself to be ready when you find "the one".
This is not a book, in my opinion, to be read passively. It's very active and you get the most out of it when you take the time to do the work.
I've recommended this book to at least 6 people over the course of reading it because I've found it so helpful at allowing me see patterns in my behavior and find personal strength and value when they were lacking.
The author does reference "God" in the book but specifies that this is not a book written just for religious people. Instead many spiritual teachers are referenced but more so writers, poets, and artists are referred to. I think anyone can read this book and bring what they need to it (with regards to religion/spirituality) if that would help.
This is not a book, in my opinion, to be read passively. It's very active and you get the most out of it when you take the time to do the work.
I've recommended this book to at least 6 people over the course of reading it because I've found it so helpful at allowing me see patterns in my behavior and find personal strength and value when they were lacking.
The author does reference "God" in the book but specifies that this is not a book written just for religious people. Instead many spiritual teachers are referenced but more so writers, poets, and artists are referred to. I think anyone can read this book and bring what they need to it (with regards to religion/spirituality) if that would help.
radioactve_piano's review
3.0
I originally ordered this book when I had a 25% off coupon from Barnes and Noble. A friend had been recommending it for months, and I, having been more or less ditched over the summer, was finally ready to get the hell over it. I still didn't want to buy this in a bookstore, though [one of those silly saving face moves, you know...].
I had a few failed starts to reading this, and, even when I started reading it in earnest, "seven weeks" turned into "three months". I read in fits and bursts, not having [making?] time to read it every morning as the author, Katherine, suggests.
I didn't do all of the activities, either. In fact, I found myself losing my resolve to do much of the journaling as I got further into the book. Some of the things are bizarre to me ["Have a sensual day; light candles, play sensual music, wear sensual clothes and a sensual scent..."], but others have a more readily accepted value ["Write a list of all the situations in your current life that you feel frustrated with. Go back through and ask yourself these questions for each entry..."].
I can't say I've attracted the love of my life yet, but I've become a much happier person in general. I don't want to attribute that to the book because I started reading it this last time shortly after moving, and a lot of things changed in my life. But I think this book is better than most (excusing all of the religious nudges throughout the lessons). She focuses on being positive and thanking your world for whatever you have going on in your life right now. It's more of an ego-boosting book than a relationship-help book. Yay!
I had a few failed starts to reading this, and, even when I started reading it in earnest, "seven weeks" turned into "three months". I read in fits and bursts, not having [making?] time to read it every morning as the author, Katherine, suggests.
I didn't do all of the activities, either. In fact, I found myself losing my resolve to do much of the journaling as I got further into the book. Some of the things are bizarre to me ["Have a sensual day; light candles, play sensual music, wear sensual clothes and a sensual scent..."], but others have a more readily accepted value ["Write a list of all the situations in your current life that you feel frustrated with. Go back through and ask yourself these questions for each entry..."].
I can't say I've attracted the love of my life yet, but I've become a much happier person in general. I don't want to attribute that to the book because I started reading it this last time shortly after moving, and a lot of things changed in my life. But I think this book is better than most (excusing all of the religious nudges throughout the lessons). She focuses on being positive and thanking your world for whatever you have going on in your life right now. It's more of an ego-boosting book than a relationship-help book. Yay!
maxineha's review
5.0
Well what can I say. I loved this book!
I've worked through a number of books, to let go of my feelings for my husband, and my ex-boyfriend.
In 2018 I worked though the Grief Recovery Handbook.
At the beginning of 2020 I worked through Conscious Uncoupling also by Katherine Woodward Thomas. And I've just finished this book.
On 15th June I worked through Lesson 30, A case for selfishness, and wrote about: what I really want from a romantic partner, what I absolutely need in an intimate relationship, and what I absolutely will not settle for in an intimate relationship.
5 days later I received a message from a man on a dating website. We've been dating for 6 weeks, and he could possibly be "The One".
I highly recommend this book, and the other two, if you are prepared to do some deep soul searching and calling in YOUR ONE. :-)
I've worked through a number of books, to let go of my feelings for my husband, and my ex-boyfriend.
In 2018 I worked though the Grief Recovery Handbook.
At the beginning of 2020 I worked through Conscious Uncoupling also by Katherine Woodward Thomas. And I've just finished this book.
On 15th June I worked through Lesson 30, A case for selfishness, and wrote about: what I really want from a romantic partner, what I absolutely need in an intimate relationship, and what I absolutely will not settle for in an intimate relationship.
5 days later I received a message from a man on a dating website. We've been dating for 6 weeks, and he could possibly be "The One".
I highly recommend this book, and the other two, if you are prepared to do some deep soul searching and calling in YOUR ONE. :-)
nico2022's review
2.0
My therapist recommended this book to me after I'd been seeing her for about 6 months, and I trusted her suggestion since we'd had a lot of success in our sessions together. Unfortunately, all this book has done is make me worry about whether I should be trusting my therapist's perspective.
I was hopeful that despite the terrible title, the text would be more sophisticated. Instead, every trite quote you can imagine made an appearance and I think I pulled a muscle with how hard I rolled my eyes in almost every chapter. More seriously, the encouragement of a mindset of "your soulmate is on his/her way" is extremely dangerous in my mind, and part of the reason I harbor a lot of resentment toward Christian courting culture.
The author has a serious lack of logic in what she professes as clear truth, turning instead to a mixed bag of self-help gurus, religious leaders and texts, energy healers, personal experience and feelings, universalism (think "The Secret"), and out-of-context author quotes to make her points. (It's a personal pet peeve of mine when people ask you to suspend agnosticism to try on their perspective, which relies entirely upon accepting and surrendering to a higher power.)
This book might provide the kind of self-awareness and reflection many people can't find on their own (through exercises that ultimately just repeat themselves), but I have a very difficult time putting much stock in it at all. For me, it bordered on intellectually offensive and spiritually immature. Save yourself some time and instead just practice deep breathing / meditation and see a well-trained psychotherapist.
I was hopeful that despite the terrible title, the text would be more sophisticated. Instead, every trite quote you can imagine made an appearance and I think I pulled a muscle with how hard I rolled my eyes in almost every chapter. More seriously, the encouragement of a mindset of "your soulmate is on his/her way" is extremely dangerous in my mind, and part of the reason I harbor a lot of resentment toward Christian courting culture.
The author has a serious lack of logic in what she professes as clear truth, turning instead to a mixed bag of self-help gurus, religious leaders and texts, energy healers, personal experience and feelings, universalism (think "The Secret"), and out-of-context author quotes to make her points. (It's a personal pet peeve of mine when people ask you to suspend agnosticism to try on their perspective, which relies entirely upon accepting and surrendering to a higher power.)
This book might provide the kind of self-awareness and reflection many people can't find on their own (through exercises that ultimately just repeat themselves), but I have a very difficult time putting much stock in it at all. For me, it bordered on intellectually offensive and spiritually immature. Save yourself some time and instead just practice deep breathing / meditation and see a well-trained psychotherapist.