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Overthinking About You: Dating with Anxiety, OCD, and Depression by Allison Raskin
10 reviews
madelinedalton's review
informative
inspiring
reflective
fast-paced
3.75
Really glad I picked this up! This book made me feel seen and was a really kind approach to giving dating and relationship advice. A lot of modern dating advice doesn’t resonate with me and makes me feel ashamed of my anxiety, so this was really refreshing. I didn’t mind the hyper-conversational, peppy tone of the book because I am a huge fan of Allison/the JBU podcast, but I can understand why other people wouldn’t like that.
This is more of a me problem, but I think this book was more geared towards folks in new relationships than it was towards chronically single girlies like me. It gave me lots to think about, and I can see myself returning to this book when I do enter my next relationship. The chapter about dating productively was unfortunately a let down—it didn’t teach me anything I didn’t already know from experience and was filled with cliché modern dating advice I hear all the time. Lots of helpful info for dating newbies, but not so much for those of us who have been around the block a few times.
This is more of a me problem, but I think this book was more geared towards folks in new relationships than it was towards chronically single girlies like me. It gave me lots to think about, and I can see myself returning to this book when I do enter my next relationship. The chapter about dating productively was unfortunately a let down—it didn’t teach me anything I didn’t already know from experience and was filled with cliché modern dating advice I hear all the time. Lots of helpful info for dating newbies, but not so much for those of us who have been around the block a few times.
Content Warnings
Moderate: Fatphobia and Mental illness
Minor: Self harm, Sexual content, Suicidal thoughts, and Abandonment
tetedump's review
informative
inspiring
lighthearted
fast-paced
4.0
Content Warnings
Graphic: Body shaming, Fatphobia, Mental illness, Panic attacks/disorders, Self harm, Suicidal thoughts, and Toxic relationship
rosita's review
hopeful
informative
4.0
As someone who has all anxiety, ocd, and depression, this book was a lifesaver. I really feel like i learnt a lot! I really have a hard time with relationships and this book helped sooo much, its really great how allison got help from renowed professionals, and included so many sides and perspectives!
Content Warnings
Graphic: Mental illness, Self harm, Suicidal thoughts, Toxic relationship, and Abandonment
Moderate: Ableism, Body shaming, and Fatphobia
Minor: Sexual content
eegrasse's review
challenging
emotional
hopeful
informative
inspiring
reflective
medium-paced
4.75
Content Warnings
Moderate: Fatphobia and Self harm
Minor: Suicidal thoughts
aprilinao's review
funny
hopeful
informative
inspiring
reflective
medium-paced
5.0
As expected from Allison, this was a very thoughtfully made book. Allison is in school herself but pulls in a good number of experts to discuss that chapter’s topic. Also, Allison does a great job of considering experiences outside her own and uses gender neutral language unless specification is necessary (e.g., when discussing men’s relationships to mental health help). Even in conversation with contributors, Allison caveats text to be more inclusive or to show how people experience things differently. I appreciate her transparency and accountability, using her past experiences to provide examples and to show how a person can grow with time and help. The design of this book is beautiful and easy to read, from the fonts to the cute blue bullet points to the white space and spacing. I really appreciated the bullet points to sum up chapters’ main ideas. Overall, a fantastic read. Keep up the good work, Allison!! You’re doing great!
Content Warnings
Minor: Fatphobia, Self harm, and Suicidal thoughts
nishapan's review
emotional
funny
hopeful
informative
inspiring
reflective
medium-paced
4.5
Content Warnings
Moderate: Mental illness
Minor: Drug use, Fatphobia, Mental illness, Panic attacks/disorders, Self harm, Suicide, Suicide attempt, and Abandonment
Trigger warnings are given at the beginning of every chaptersavvyrosereads's review
emotional
hopeful
informative
reflective
fast-paced
5.0
I almost don't feel right giving this a star rating because I think everyone's relationship to it will be very personal, but I absolutely loved it. So much of the book made me feel seen in such a special and meaningful way, and I LOVED that even though the focus is very much on romantic relationships, so many of the takeaways can be applied universally. I'm so glad I read this one!
Content Warnings
Graphic: Mental illness
Moderate: Fatphobia, Panic attacks/disorders, Self harm, and Suicidal thoughts
anniefwrites's review
emotional
funny
informative
reflective
fast-paced
5.0
I’ve been following Allison’s life and career for many years now, and I feel so proud of her for this amazing book. It is filled to the brim with good advice from herself and from experts. As someone with anxiety, I think her tips will be very useful to me in the future. Her vulnerability makes you as a reader feel more open about your own struggles around the sometimes shame-inducing world of dating. This is a great resource, and I’m so glad she wrote it.
Content Warnings
Graphic: Mental illness, Self harm, Sexual content, Suicidal thoughts, and Abandonment
Moderate: Fatphobia, Toxic relationship, and Grief
Minor: Bullying, Cursing, and Death
skudiklier's review against another edition
funny
informative
inspiring
reflective
medium-paced
5.0
I'm a big fan of Allison, so I'll admit that I was excited to read this book more because she wrote it than because of its contents. But I do also have anxiety, and though I've been in a happy healthy relationship for years, I don't have much experience with dating. So I figured I'd learn things from this book even if I'm not its target audience--and I found it even more helpful than I thought!
So much of it was just useful for me as mental health info on an individual level. I haven't had almost any therapy for my anxiety since I was a kid, so even though the more early relationship-focused angle was less relevant to my situation, it was still very helpful, both in how I think about my relationship and just generally living with anxiety. I realized some habits and patterns in my relationship might have more to do with my anxiety than I thought, and so I can work on those things too. I definitely screenshotted and took notes on lots of sections of this book.
It was also just enjoyable to read; I started this book while in the middle of several others, and ended up abandoning all the other ones to speed through this one. Out of all the novels and everything else, this was the most interesting and engaging one I was reading.
I also love Allison's voice as a writer. I'm sure it helped that I'm familiar with her work and style, and maybe some of the humor or tone wouldn't come across the same way to a different reader. But I for one enjoyed it and it felt like listening to a friend.
This book has really helpful and concrete advice for living with a mental illness, for dating, and for doing both at once; I would honestly recommend this book to anyone, regardless of if they fit the specific "person with anxiety, OCD, and/or depression who is looking to date new people" profile. This book covers topics from how to date productively to going on medication to talking about sex, and I think literally anyone would find something useful inside. Even if you're entirely neurotypical, you could use the general dating advice, and odds are you have some kind of relationship (not necessarily romantic) with someone with a mental illness. I think this book could help you know better how to communicate with them, and understand what life is like for them.
Overall I loved this book! I'm so glad Allison wrote it; thanks to Netgalley and Workman Publishing Company for the chance to read and review this ARC.
So much of it was just useful for me as mental health info on an individual level. I haven't had almost any therapy for my anxiety since I was a kid, so even though the more early relationship-focused angle was less relevant to my situation, it was still very helpful, both in how I think about my relationship and just generally living with anxiety. I realized some habits and patterns in my relationship might have more to do with my anxiety than I thought, and so I can work on those things too. I definitely screenshotted and took notes on lots of sections of this book.
It was also just enjoyable to read; I started this book while in the middle of several others, and ended up abandoning all the other ones to speed through this one. Out of all the novels and everything else, this was the most interesting and engaging one I was reading.
I also love Allison's voice as a writer. I'm sure it helped that I'm familiar with her work and style, and maybe some of the humor or tone wouldn't come across the same way to a different reader. But I for one enjoyed it and it felt like listening to a friend.
This book has really helpful and concrete advice for living with a mental illness, for dating, and for doing both at once; I would honestly recommend this book to anyone, regardless of if they fit the specific "person with anxiety, OCD, and/or depression who is looking to date new people" profile. This book covers topics from how to date productively to going on medication to talking about sex, and I think literally anyone would find something useful inside. Even if you're entirely neurotypical, you could use the general dating advice, and odds are you have some kind of relationship (not necessarily romantic) with someone with a mental illness. I think this book could help you know better how to communicate with them, and understand what life is like for them.
Overall I loved this book! I'm so glad Allison wrote it; thanks to Netgalley and Workman Publishing Company for the chance to read and review this ARC.
Content Warnings
Moderate: Fatphobia, Self harm, Sexual content, and Suicidal thoughts
Minor: Eating disorder and Suicide attempt
dhritigupta's review
emotional
funny
hopeful
informative
inspiring
reflective
medium-paced
5.0
i loved this sm!!! regardless of if you have depression, anxiety or ocd, i think this book is so helpful, but i was also happy to see ocd-specific advice and rep! the concepts were so accessibly explained and really hit home with my experiences. i esp loved the bullet point summaries!!
Content Warnings
Moderate: Fatphobia and Self harm