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marysasala's review
5.0
This has been on my to-read list forever. Finally got to it. 8 years and 3 kids into parenting, this book most certainly reflects my own parenting philosophy. It was good to read to be given some reminders and tips. Must read for all parents.
cari1268's review
4.0
Overall, I liked most aspects of "Parenting With Love and Logic." I liked the idea of giving children more freedom to choose. I agree that the consequences of making mistakes and failing when we're younger cost less than when we're older. Although I did think that some of the examples were a little extreme (i.e. waiting until the family dog is malnourished and it's ribs are showing before doing something about it). Also, as a wife of a school teacher, I'm not too sure about letting the school provide all of the consequences for bad students. I know my husband doesn't appreciate parents who are like that!
I gave the book three stars because even after reading it, I'm not sure how well I can implement the parenting strategies. This might be my own personal failings or because of the fact that my only child is just a baby and too young to practice on. The giving the child two choices seems simple enough but the authors lost me when they started talking about providing consequences later for bad behavior without telling the kids about them until the consequences happen. See, doesn't that sound confusing? I'm new at this parenting thing, but I can see myself forgetting to provide consequences if I don't do it right away. This seems like a parenting strategy that would take years to get good at. But maybe that's just the normal time frame to become a good parent anyway. Either way, I left this book feeling very terrified for my son to grow up and like I'll forget everything that I learned about in a few months. I will most likely read, "Love and Logic Magic for Early Childhood" in a couple of years when my son is a little bit older as a refresher course.
**I'm changing my rating after babysitting my friends' kids. The implementation isn't nearly as hard as I thought it would be. I found myself effortlessly using this parenting strategy. I loved being able to emphathize with the kids and letting the consequences be the bad guys. I'm still not sure on how I'll do on waiting to give consequences. Overall, I plan on incorporating most of this method into my parenting strategy.
I gave the book three stars because even after reading it, I'm not sure how well I can implement the parenting strategies. This might be my own personal failings or because of the fact that my only child is just a baby and too young to practice on. The giving the child two choices seems simple enough but the authors lost me when they started talking about providing consequences later for bad behavior without telling the kids about them until the consequences happen. See, doesn't that sound confusing? I'm new at this parenting thing, but I can see myself forgetting to provide consequences if I don't do it right away. This seems like a parenting strategy that would take years to get good at. But maybe that's just the normal time frame to become a good parent anyway. Either way, I left this book feeling very terrified for my son to grow up and like I'll forget everything that I learned about in a few months. I will most likely read, "Love and Logic Magic for Early Childhood" in a couple of years when my son is a little bit older as a refresher course.
**I'm changing my rating after babysitting my friends' kids. The implementation isn't nearly as hard as I thought it would be. I found myself effortlessly using this parenting strategy. I loved being able to emphathize with the kids and letting the consequences be the bad guys. I'm still not sure on how I'll do on waiting to give consequences. Overall, I plan on incorporating most of this method into my parenting strategy.
lmccullough's review
1.0
I had such high hopes for this book. I was instead met with weak parenting advice such as-just model good behavior and your kids will eventually figure it out. Seriously? I’m supposed to just tell them I think it’ll make them sad to watch so much tv but not actually turn it off or make a rule/limit for my household? No thank you. I’m all about talking through problems with my kids and modeling good behavior, but parenting is more than that. Very disappointed.
jwinchell's review
1.0
I really liked the premise of this book, but then I realized that it is very Christian in its basis. There's nothing wrong with that, but I didn't like that the argument rests on Christian principles. When these parenting professionals used Adam & Eve to prove a foundational point about responsibility, they lost me.
heids116's review
I do not feel like finishing this book. The information I am reading is either a confirmation of what I already know to be effective parenting, or there is information that goes against my values/what I want for my future child.
readwithtabi's review
4.0
I think the concepts in this book really make sense and I have already used a few. Now to put to the test to see if can be applied to reality! Haha
lkthomas07's review
4.0
Someone recommended the Love and Logic "system" to me, so I figured I'd check it out! It really does have great points. I've started implementing it with my 8 year old and it's making a difference for sure! She feels more part of the family and someone who has input and can make decisions. I definitely won't be everything to the letter, as some things were just a bit much for me. But as long as it's taken with a grain of salt - great base for raising kids.
maryehavens's review
4.0
Swift read. I liked the pearls at the end the best, to be used as a sort of reference book. At times, I felt the authors were WAY too harsh with their punishments. But then, I don't have an 11 year old so maybe I will react the same way when I have older kids.
The best concept I took away was: if there is a 10% chance your child can solve the problem on their own, let them do it. If there is a 1/3 chance that the siblings can hash out there on issues, let them do it.
I felt they were a bit light on the chores and way too heavy on the "you didn't eat my dinner but you want food. Pay me for it." I have still not figured out the allowance thing (I need to) but I don't think taking money from my kids for food is the answer. Again, maybe when they are older.
Definitely keeping this around so I can reference it for upcoming battles! Sassy words are what we are dealing with right now :/
The best concept I took away was: if there is a 10% chance your child can solve the problem on their own, let them do it. If there is a 1/3 chance that the siblings can hash out there on issues, let them do it.
I felt they were a bit light on the chores and way too heavy on the "you didn't eat my dinner but you want food. Pay me for it." I have still not figured out the allowance thing (I need to) but I don't think taking money from my kids for food is the answer. Again, maybe when they are older.
Definitely keeping this around so I can reference it for upcoming battles! Sassy words are what we are dealing with right now :/