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poetricsoap's review against another edition
4.5
In general I really like the book. I specifically loved the highlight of the privilege because I think we tend to overlook these pretty easily! There are only one or two point that I don't agree with the author, e.g. if you have trauma, you shouldn't enter into a relationship.
Graphic: Ableism, Biphobia, Emotional abuse, Homophobia, Misogyny, Racism, Rape, Sexism, Sexual assault, Transphobia, Lesbophobia, Gaslighting, and Sexual harassment
Moderate: Body shaming, Eating disorder, Mental illness, and Outing
paulamarie1468's review against another edition
4.0
Moderate: Ableism, Biphobia, Body shaming, Emotional abuse, Fatphobia, Homophobia, Misogyny, Racism, Rape, Sexism, Sexual assault, Sexual violence, Toxic relationship, Transphobia, Abortion, Lesbophobia, Outing, Cultural appropriation, Gaslighting, Sexual harassment, Colonisation, and Classism
feliciavanleeuwen's review against another edition
3.75
I like her writing style and a lot of the book is very recognizable as a bi woman of the same age. Its a great introduction for people that are not that deep in to (intersectional) femenism yet.
The only thing that I'm missing is when she lists marginalised groups she tends to omit disabled in the list. Maybe she focuses on it more in the full version, but sometimes every marginality is mentioned but that. I know it's the short version but it wouldn't have added a page I think.
Moderate: Ableism, Biphobia, Body shaming, Domestic abuse, Eating disorder, Emotional abuse, Fatphobia, Homophobia, Mental illness, Misogyny, Racism, Rape, Sexism, Sexual assault, Sexual violence, Toxic relationship, Violence, Xenophobia, Islamophobia, Gaslighting, Sexual harassment, and Classism
Minor: Bullying, Domestic abuse, Eating disorder, Emotional abuse, Fatphobia, Hate crime, Homophobia, Infertility, Mental illness, Physical abuse, Racial slurs, Rape, Sexism, Sexual assault, Sexual violence, Antisemitism, Lesbophobia, Outing, Sexual harassment, and Colonisation
pianokeys's review against another edition
4.5
Moderate: Body shaming, Bullying, Cursing, Eating disorder, Fatphobia, Infidelity, Misogyny, Racism, Rape, Sexism, Sexual assault, Sexual content, Sexual violence, Toxic relationship, Transphobia, Stalking, Abortion, Lesbophobia, Cultural appropriation, Gaslighting, Toxic friendship, and Sexual harassment
bunchofrosies's review
1.25
Graphic: Rape, Sexism, Sexual assault, Sexual violence, and Lesbophobia
james1star's review against another edition
4.0
- Challenging what we’ve learned and the society we’ve grown up in is hard and uncomfortable but needed for change to occur and the little discomfort is a lot less compared to the injustices, be patient but also call out when appropriate
- Being or making yourself more ‘pretty’ doesn’t make you any less of a feminist because society still values beauty in women highly, different standards for different women e.g. trans, fat, people of colour where additional prejudices are present, acknowledge privileges
- Love yourself, no one really cares about what you’re doing/how you look, why settle when there’s something/one better
- Internalised misogyny prevents progress, ‘flaws’ are MAN-made, beauty standards are fake, healing own insecurities will lead to empathy and viewing other women differently/in a more positive light
- Queer feelings are valid, working though internalised homo/lesbo/bi-phobia, limited and stereotypical views of queerness prevented her from validating feelings, oversaturated heteronormativity in media (it’s ‘hetrifying’), queer women view others via a queer gaze not the typical heterosexual male gaze
- Women can and should enjoy sex too (if they want), reinforces notion they’re passive participants reserved for men’s desires, normalised discomfort forces queer women to repress their feelings
- Asking for consent > sexual assault, shows maturity and it’s the law, providing the option of not doing anything, need to learn this before sexual violence takes place, set and keep boundaries
- Can’t teach how to avoid sexual assault because it’s never your fault, rape culture, ‘preventative’ measures women take when that’s not the problem, it’s physically impossibly to “ask” for rape, openly discuss sexual violence from a young age to avoid it becoming normalised/accepted, rape’s the only crime where the victim is treated/questioned like the perpetrator, inconsistencies with reporting and sentencing
- The price women pay for existing (so many adjustments, additional expenses, etc), spend money/energy keeping safe from men but paid less, standards are set by the hetero male gaze, ‘flaws’ generated by capitalist standards of beauty, still not that safe being visibly queer, women are meant to be sexy but when she uses this ‘power’ that’s a bad thing, how shame is used to put women down, sexual gaze thrusted on woman’s bodies (school uniform, nipples, etc)
- It’s okay and ‘normal’ to feel heartbroken, hard to quit people completely in our social media world, how to recover, craving romance doesn’t make you any less of a feminist
Moderate: Misogyny, Sexism, Sexual assault, and Sexual violence
Minor: Biphobia, Eating disorder, Fatphobia, Homophobia, Racism, Rape, Sexual content, Transphobia, and Lesbophobia
liv_txt's review against another edition
4.0
Moderate: Eating disorder, Homophobia, Mental illness, Racism, Rape, Sexism, Sexual assault, Sexual violence, Transphobia, Lesbophobia, Outing, and Sexual harassment
wintah's review against another edition
3.5
Moderate: Ableism, Biphobia, Eating disorder, Fatphobia, Homophobia, Misogyny, Racism, Sexism, Sexual assault, Toxic relationship, Transphobia, Lesbophobia, Cultural appropriation, Gaslighting, Sexual harassment, and Classism
Minor: Rape
holliesatchell's review against another edition
4.0
Graphic: Biphobia, Body shaming, Bullying, Cursing, Eating disorder, Emotional abuse, Fatphobia, Hate crime, Homophobia, Misogyny, Rape, Sexism, Sexual assault, Sexual content, Toxic relationship, Lesbophobia, and Alcohol
ellislily's review against another edition
3.0
Graphic: Body shaming, Eating disorder, Fatphobia, Homophobia, Mental illness, Misogyny, Racism, Sexual assault, Lesbophobia, and Outing
Minor: Cultural appropriation