aiyaivy's review against another edition
2.0
I see how this book speaks to real-life experiences, I do. But the advice feels outdated and catered to certain male preferences (specifically, the ones that are probably fairly traditional/conservative and want a specific type of fantasy woman).
In my opinion, if you need all these rules and principles to learn how to be a "bitch" - you might be doing the exact opposite of what this book is saying. The key messages that I got from this read are to not cave into another person's wishes or needs if it poses an inconvenience to yourself, to have your own opinions, to be independent (emotionally, socially, and financially), and to know how to make yourself someone worthwhile to pursue. However, I can't help but disagree that if you're putting in this much effort to abide by these rules of holding out/not being a tease/leaving things mysterious to keep him "hooked," you are performing....and by performing, you're probably attracting people who aren't meant for you or shitty people who fall into these predictable male preferences.
Wouldn't that be the exact opposite of staying true to yourself and being a "bitch"?
It was entertaining reading through the reasons and principles of attraction but I didn't take away anything tangible or implementable. I just have to say: ladies - just do you! If a man loses respect for you for showing interest in him or takes you for granted for XYZ reason, he's not the one. You shouldn't have to think of all these strategies and rules to be loved or to love!!
In my opinion, if you need all these rules and principles to learn how to be a "bitch" - you might be doing the exact opposite of what this book is saying. The key messages that I got from this read are to not cave into another person's wishes or needs if it poses an inconvenience to yourself, to have your own opinions, to be independent (emotionally, socially, and financially), and to know how to make yourself someone worthwhile to pursue. However, I can't help but disagree that if you're putting in this much effort to abide by these rules of holding out/not being a tease/leaving things mysterious to keep him "hooked," you are performing....and by performing, you're probably attracting people who aren't meant for you or shitty people who fall into these predictable male preferences.
Wouldn't that be the exact opposite of staying true to yourself and being a "bitch"?
It was entertaining reading through the reasons and principles of attraction but I didn't take away anything tangible or implementable. I just have to say: ladies - just do you! If a man loses respect for you for showing interest in him or takes you for granted for XYZ reason, he's not the one. You shouldn't have to think of all these strategies and rules to be loved or to love!!
lily_lee's review against another edition
Lost interest, she’s a good writer but I don’t agree with majority of what she is teaching in the book.
grumblinggeek's review against another edition
funny
informative
lighthearted
reflective
fast-paced
3.0
seedwa's review against another edition
Some dreams aren’t meant to come true, like my dream of understanding why men love bitches.
bookswithriinu's review against another edition
3.0
Täitsa raske on miskit kosta selle raamatu kohta. Kuigi ta on väga menukas ja nt Eestis raamatupoodidest läbi müüdud, siis pigem minu tassike teed ta ei olnud. Muidugi oli ka väga palju häid näpunäiteid enesearmastusest ja iseenda esile tõstmisest. Kuid soovitused mängida suhetes mingeid mänge, nt ignoreerida enda teist poolt, et tema siis kartma hakkaks, et on sind kaotamas…noh, see on minu silmis lihtsalt vale…
lindsaymoultonn's review against another edition
challenging
funny
informative
inspiring
reflective
fast-paced
5.0
merikweni's review against another edition
5.0
I've read this book once and I got really bored. I didn't even finish it the first time and just dropped it. 2 years later, I was so heartbroken to the core, I was down and couldn’t function well. I decided to drag myself to the bookstore to lift my mood up. I've been on reading slump for more than 4 months and I thought of going back to what I really love, getting lost and be crazy over awesome stories. I picked up a couple of books that I want to read and I saw this. I did not hesitate to grab it and gave it a second chance. This time I finally enjoyed this and realized the essence of this book. I couldn’t not see it then, but now I know what went wrong in my last relationship and how submissive I was and how easy I was taken advantage of. I was so happy and thankful that this self-help book made me realize my worth again. :)