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lauracyph's review against another edition
emotional
informative
inspiring
reflective
tense
medium-paced
4.25
amandahajj's review against another edition
4.0
Oh how I love Sue Johnson. She has an immaculate way of sharing her ideas. For those interested in learning more on attachment theory, and physical/emotional intimacy, this is a great read.
“Our bonds with others are not only our most crucial source of vitality but our strongest defense.”
“Our bonds with others are not only our most crucial source of vitality but our strongest defense.”
breenmachine's review against another edition
4.0
I attempted to read her first book "Hold Me Tight" and I could never get into it. (There were too many examples of over-the-top couples for me to relate to.) However this book is on a different level. I loved it. It's clear, engaging, and profound. I love the variety of topics and psychology studies mentioned throughout. It's definitely about relationships, but it's also about attachment in a general sense (society, helping others, etc).
"Emotional dependency is not immature or pathological; it is our greatest strength."
"Love is a constant process of tuning in, connecting, missing and misreading cues, disconnecting, repairing, and finding deeper connection. It is a dance of meeting and parting and finding each other again, minute by minute and day by day."
"The core attachment question—“Are you there for me?”—requires a “yes” in response. A secure bond has three basic elements: • accessibility—you give me your attention and are emotionally open to what I am saying; • responsiveness—you accept my needs and fears and offer comfort and caring; and • engagement—you are emotionally present, absorbed, and involved with me."
"Emotional dependency is not immature or pathological; it is our greatest strength."
"Love is a constant process of tuning in, connecting, missing and misreading cues, disconnecting, repairing, and finding deeper connection. It is a dance of meeting and parting and finding each other again, minute by minute and day by day."
"The core attachment question—“Are you there for me?”—requires a “yes” in response. A secure bond has three basic elements: • accessibility—you give me your attention and are emotionally open to what I am saying; • responsiveness—you accept my needs and fears and offer comfort and caring; and • engagement—you are emotionally present, absorbed, and involved with me."
kartail's review against another edition
4.0
4/5 stars.
Compared to the last book that I read on love and attachment etc this is great as a follow up. It has a much more in depth look at the science behind all of it which I love! My favourite part was definitely reading about all the studies and experiments sprinkled about in this book. However, It was definitely a bit dull whenever I had to read the made up scenarios or had to endure endless scenes about couples and their struggles. I enjoyed a bit of it, but by the end they were definitely a drag, and I think I was finished with the book way before it really ended. I don’t recommend reading the last few chapters.
Compared to the last book that I read on love and attachment etc this is great as a follow up. It has a much more in depth look at the science behind all of it which I love! My favourite part was definitely reading about all the studies and experiments sprinkled about in this book. However, It was definitely a bit dull whenever I had to read the made up scenarios or had to endure endless scenes about couples and their struggles. I enjoyed a bit of it, but by the end they were definitely a drag, and I think I was finished with the book way before it really ended. I don’t recommend reading the last few chapters.
novelesque_life's review against another edition
5.0
RATING: 5 STARS
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(I am working on a writing project on dating, love, romance, self confidence, creativity and self love. Currently, I am reading and researching the topics. The books I am reading for this I will also be reviewing, but may not discuss the project in the review.)
My therapist recommended this author to me, but I could not get my hand on the title she recommended. I decided to try this one and wow. Johnson takes common sense, psychology and examples to give her audience a clear understanding of the science behind romantic relationships. She believes that humans are meant to mate for life, and this was refreshing to read. To better understand this concept we must look at the relations we have formed in childhood. The type of love that will last is the secure love. Even if this is not accomplished in childhood, we can achieve it as adults if we are willing to do the work. It looks at the three stages of love and how as a couple you can make through. With scientific research to back up the theories, I think this is a great book for any one looking for secure love.
(Review Not on Blog)
(I am working on a writing project on dating, love, romance, self confidence, creativity and self love. Currently, I am reading and researching the topics. The books I am reading for this I will also be reviewing, but may not discuss the project in the review.)
My therapist recommended this author to me, but I could not get my hand on the title she recommended. I decided to try this one and wow. Johnson takes common sense, psychology and examples to give her audience a clear understanding of the science behind romantic relationships. She believes that humans are meant to mate for life, and this was refreshing to read. To better understand this concept we must look at the relations we have formed in childhood. The type of love that will last is the secure love. Even if this is not accomplished in childhood, we can achieve it as adults if we are willing to do the work. It looks at the three stages of love and how as a couple you can make through. With scientific research to back up the theories, I think this is a great book for any one looking for secure love.