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thereadingparamedic's review against another edition
4.0
Mel got in touch with me on Twitter after I’d been tweeting about being stressed & feeling anxious. She offered to send me a copy of her book & prior to this I’d genuinely never been aware that high sensitivity is a recognised trait, not just that I’m “overly emotional”.
I recognised myself in lots of its pages & even went through it with a highlighter! I’m going through a really difficult time right now & I genuinely cried whilst reading, it made me feel less alone.
I didn’t find the spiritual chapters were useful to me, and Mel explains at the beginning of the book that this is ok. A spiritual focus is not for everyone. However, I have accepted the part of me that needs space - that it’s ok for me to have time to myself to deal with my emotions & process what I’m going through. The sea is my true healer but I don’t live close enough to it, so nature becomes my second choice for healing. I’ve also followed some of the “tapping” techniques & find the hand one especially helps me to release some emotions (& I’ll admit I was sceptical, I really didn’t think it would work!).
Overall, I found this book extremely useful, if only in recognising that it’s ok to be the sensitive person that I am. I went through thinking “I only thought it was me who felt like that, I thought I was weird”! Clearly, I’m not! I highly recommend it for HSPs - even reading the book will help you release some emotions!
I recognised myself in lots of its pages & even went through it with a highlighter! I’m going through a really difficult time right now & I genuinely cried whilst reading, it made me feel less alone.
I didn’t find the spiritual chapters were useful to me, and Mel explains at the beginning of the book that this is ok. A spiritual focus is not for everyone. However, I have accepted the part of me that needs space - that it’s ok for me to have time to myself to deal with my emotions & process what I’m going through. The sea is my true healer but I don’t live close enough to it, so nature becomes my second choice for healing. I’ve also followed some of the “tapping” techniques & find the hand one especially helps me to release some emotions (& I’ll admit I was sceptical, I really didn’t think it would work!).
Overall, I found this book extremely useful, if only in recognising that it’s ok to be the sensitive person that I am. I went through thinking “I only thought it was me who felt like that, I thought I was weird”! Clearly, I’m not! I highly recommend it for HSPs - even reading the book will help you release some emotions!
danisjoies's review against another edition
3.0
Overall, an encouraging read for people who identify as HSPs. For me personally, some of the chapters weren’t my cup of tea (chapters on reincarnation, more new-age spirituality ideas), so if that aligns more with your beliefs then this is the book for you. As a Christian, I had trouble identifying with a lot of it.
bexcapades's review against another edition
5.0
This was brilliantly inspiring & easy to read. It wasn’t patronising or assuming prior knowledge. I feel like it can be read by anyone at any stage of their self-awareness journey.
I loved the third section on spirituality but I also appreciate it was good in all one place for those who don’t want to delve into this aspect as they can skip it!
I’ve already recommended it to a friend!
I loved the third section on spirituality but I also appreciate it was good in all one place for those who don’t want to delve into this aspect as they can skip it!
I’ve already recommended it to a friend!
whatjenreads's review against another edition
4.0
I always knew that I was sensitive and in tune to other people’s emotions. Reading this book was an AH-HA moment for me, as I could finally put a name to this character trait that runs my life. I am proud to say that I am a highly sensitive person (HSP) and this book has helped me see it as a gift, not a flaw. The first section of the book defines HSP, gives character traits, and explains the challenges we face. The second section details the impact that being an HSP can have in a persons life and in their relationships with others. The third section goes into strategies to help an HSP thrive in their life instead of merely surviving it. The fourth section is new age spiritual practices- not for me and the author disclosed at the beginning of the book that the reader is welcome to skip that portion if they aren’t into it. The author is a fellow HSP and works in a prison, giving the reader tried-and-true effective strategies for surviving the noise, chaos, and negativity that can have such a big impact on HSPs. While I work in a middle school, not a prison, these are hazards of the job and I’ve been struggling this year and feeling overwhelmed and frazzled. Over the last week I’ve been putting these strategies into play and have seen a marked improvement in my ability to function in a positive way and come home to my family without feeling the need to retreat or being overwhelmed and cranky by noise. If you, or someone you know, is an HSP then I highly recommend this book! For me, The Handbook for Highly Sensitive People was ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️/5 stars. Thank you @watkinswisdom for this advance reader in exchange for my honest review.
ngrigoryan's review against another edition
Wasn’t interested in the self-help strategies, found them to be a bit woo-woo
thogek's review against another edition
3.0
Disclaimer: I obtained my copy of The Handbook for Highly Sensitive People from NetGalley as a preview PDF ebook (which failed to display usably on my Kobo ereader; I read it using the Kindle app on iPad). I'm presuming the text won't change much between that and its final release.
First, be aware that this is not a citation- and study-laden analysis of the high-sensitivity trait, but more the author's life experiences in relation to her realization and sense of her own high sensitivity and a compilation of her strategies for navigating her world as an HSP. So if you're looking for a in-depth study of HSPness, this isn't it; try Elaine Aron's solid and accessible work. But if you're interested in one HSPs long-reflected perspective and "handbook" approach to life as an HSP, or even just a sympathetic validation that HSP is a thing and that it's Not Just You, this might work for you.
The first two chapters—basically Collins's introduction of herself and her perspective on HSP—desperately need extensive proofreading. I lost count of how many times I had to reread a sentence multiple times to tease out its likely meaning, or stumbled across odd word or grammar choices. Bits of this crop up as occasional reading speed-bumps throughout the book, although not nearly as much. Perhaps some of that will have smoothed out between my preview copy and the final.
OTOH, for anyone unsure after the first chapter or two, give Chapter 4 a chance. Collins's "Top Ten Challenges Faced by HSPs" may be her own unscientifically compiled observations, but they are well described and likely to resonate with any HSP, should serve as a fair description of HSP life to non-HSPs, and provide brief hints of where and how other parts of the book will relate to each challenge. This chapter may be the best sampler for toe-in-the-water gauging the value of book as a whole.
The next few chapters explore the types of roles that people, especially HSPs, tend to present in order to more safely interface with the world, six core human needs that tend to drive human behaviors and decisions, etc.
Section Two (Chapters 9-14) covers Collins's "self-help strategies" for HSPs. Her description of emotional filtering and processing is pretty good; not necessarily specific to HSPs, but may be experienced more commonly or deeply by HSPs than by others. And her coverage of strategies for coping with over-arousal include a wide range of options. Not everyone will necessarily buy into some of these options (such as acupressure "tapping" or chakra-based techniques), but think of it more as a menu of potential available tools than a single instruction guide, and it mostly works.
Section 3 (Chap 15-22) explores a more "spiritual" interpretation of HSPness, with connections to reincarnating souls and past lives and the like. This is where I started to skim more, as much of this I found difficult to swallow, especially as it presumes a lot of detailed "knowledge" about how divine structures supporting reincarnation work and feed into successive lives, a degree of trust in Divine Providence to place each of us into the lives that we need to learn and resolve and complete our soul selves, etc. If this doesn't interest you, the good news is that it's concentrated into the back third of the book where it can be skimmed or skipped without interfering much with the rest.
Overall, if you're looking for some life-perspective from an HSP and a broadly inclusive review of potential "handbook" strategies for navigating life as an HSP, this might fit that bill. Personally, I might suggest starting with some foundational understandings of HSPness itself from Elaine Aron's works before reading this for the added "handbook" perspective, but... that's me; even amongst HSPs, not everyone is the same.
First, be aware that this is not a citation- and study-laden analysis of the high-sensitivity trait, but more the author's life experiences in relation to her realization and sense of her own high sensitivity and a compilation of her strategies for navigating her world as an HSP. So if you're looking for a in-depth study of HSPness, this isn't it; try Elaine Aron's solid and accessible work. But if you're interested in one HSPs long-reflected perspective and "handbook" approach to life as an HSP, or even just a sympathetic validation that HSP is a thing and that it's Not Just You, this might work for you.
The first two chapters—basically Collins's introduction of herself and her perspective on HSP—desperately need extensive proofreading. I lost count of how many times I had to reread a sentence multiple times to tease out its likely meaning, or stumbled across odd word or grammar choices. Bits of this crop up as occasional reading speed-bumps throughout the book, although not nearly as much. Perhaps some of that will have smoothed out between my preview copy and the final.
OTOH, for anyone unsure after the first chapter or two, give Chapter 4 a chance. Collins's "Top Ten Challenges Faced by HSPs" may be her own unscientifically compiled observations, but they are well described and likely to resonate with any HSP, should serve as a fair description of HSP life to non-HSPs, and provide brief hints of where and how other parts of the book will relate to each challenge. This chapter may be the best sampler for toe-in-the-water gauging the value of book as a whole.
The next few chapters explore the types of roles that people, especially HSPs, tend to present in order to more safely interface with the world, six core human needs that tend to drive human behaviors and decisions, etc.
Section Two (Chapters 9-14) covers Collins's "self-help strategies" for HSPs. Her description of emotional filtering and processing is pretty good; not necessarily specific to HSPs, but may be experienced more commonly or deeply by HSPs than by others. And her coverage of strategies for coping with over-arousal include a wide range of options. Not everyone will necessarily buy into some of these options (such as acupressure "tapping" or chakra-based techniques), but think of it more as a menu of potential available tools than a single instruction guide, and it mostly works.
Section 3 (Chap 15-22) explores a more "spiritual" interpretation of HSPness, with connections to reincarnating souls and past lives and the like. This is where I started to skim more, as much of this I found difficult to swallow, especially as it presumes a lot of detailed "knowledge" about how divine structures supporting reincarnation work and feed into successive lives, a degree of trust in Divine Providence to place each of us into the lives that we need to learn and resolve and complete our soul selves, etc. If this doesn't interest you, the good news is that it's concentrated into the back third of the book where it can be skimmed or skipped without interfering much with the rest.
Overall, if you're looking for some life-perspective from an HSP and a broadly inclusive review of potential "handbook" strategies for navigating life as an HSP, this might fit that bill. Personally, I might suggest starting with some foundational understandings of HSPness itself from Elaine Aron's works before reading this for the added "handbook" perspective, but... that's me; even amongst HSPs, not everyone is the same.
babayagaschickenlegs's review against another edition
had some good and helpful bits, started skipping thru towards end