actualresultsmayvary's review against another edition
2.75
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I really struggled with how to rate this book. It is not one book but a collection of essays by different people, each describing their experiences with rape or sexual assault, some graphically, others discussing the wider impact on their lives.
Like for almost all women this is an issue which impacts me personally and I found it far more triggering that any other media on this topic fiction or non-fiction that I have ever consumed.
The essays were variable in their quality and I think this is a topic which would have been helped by one narrative voice tying them all together, though they were tied together by the theme of not believing your experiences are bad enough to deserve sympathy and I think that is an incredibly relatable feeling.
On balance, I think reading this book was a negative experience for me, although I do believe it is important for people to tell their stories. I hope that some people are able to be helped by reading this book.
Graphic: Pedophilia, Rape, Adult/minor relationship, Child abuse, Incest, Sexual assault, and Sexual violence
orlagal's review
4.0
Graphic: Abandonment, Addiction, Adult/minor relationship, Alcohol, Alcoholism, Blood, Body horror, Body shaming, Child abuse, Cursing, Death, Domestic abuse, Drug abuse, Drug use, Dysphoria, Eating disorder, Emotional abuse, Gaslighting, Grief, Incest, Infidelity, Misogyny, Panic attacks/disorders, Pedophilia, Racism, Rape, Medical trauma, Medical content, Mental illness, Physical abuse, Self harm, Sexism, Sexual assault, Sexual content, Sexual harassment, Suicidal thoughts, Suicide, Sexual violence, Religious bigotry, Toxic friendship, Toxic relationship, and Violence
franklybookish's review against another edition
5.0
Graphic: Sexual violence, Suicidal thoughts, Toxic relationship, Adult/minor relationship, Rape, Self harm, Sexual assault, Sexual content, Sexual harassment, Child abuse, Emotional abuse, and Incest
Minor: Biphobia, Grief, Adult/minor relationship, Alcoholism, Body shaming, Drug use, Eating disorder, Fatphobia, Gaslighting, Homophobia, Lesbophobia, Mental illness, Panic attacks/disorders, and Pedophilia
lou_o_donnell's review
5.0
Graphic: Adult/minor relationship, Alcohol, Alcoholism, Body horror, Body shaming, Bullying, Child abuse, Child death, Domestic abuse, Drug abuse, Drug use, Eating disorder, Emotional abuse, Gaslighting, Incest, Mental illness, Misogyny, Panic attacks/disorders, Physical abuse, Pedophilia, Rape, Schizophrenia/Psychosis , Self harm, Sexual assault, Sexual content, Sexual harassment, Sexual violence, Suicidal thoughts, Suicide, Suicide attempt, Toxic relationship, and Violence
boswall_books's review
4.25
Graphic: Sexual assault, Self harm, Sexual violence, Sexual content, Sexism, Physical abuse, Emotional abuse, Child abuse, Incest, Misogyny, Rape, Suicidal thoughts, and Toxic relationship
travelseatsreads's review against another edition
5.0
Brutal
Unflinching
Haunting
Thought-provoking
Essential Reading
A book like this and it's effects are sometimes too powerful to put into words, let alone sentences. So many aspects of this book are worth mentioning and discussing that it's hard to mention some without all, but some of the theme's which I found were dealt with well and struck me especially hard are below.
• The phrase Not That Bad is looked at throughout the book. How, in some cases we need to minimise our trauma to exercise some level of control over the situation or indeed to to be able to begin to heal. In others, we need to emphasise the trauma in order to get help and to be able to escape from certain environments. What flows beautifully through the book is that in any case of any type of sexual trauma, IT WAS BAD ENOUGH.
• Another recurring theme which is so enduring to victims of sexual trauma is the concept of blame. This is looked at without holding back and many stories talked about the survivor feeling they hadn't done enough to fight back or to prevent it, had drawn it on themselves in some way or that they "let" their abuser continue. Again, this book tries to show that even though those feelings are all too real for survivors, the only people who should carry the blame is the abusers.
• The book also showed an area which is often neglected and that is that sexual trauma occurs across all gender spectrums or sexual orientations and effect all types of individuals. Stories from many members of the LGBTQ+ community were included and showed the horrible inclusivity of rape culture.
Every single story was powerful in it's own right but the ones that really caught me were those by Aubrey Hirsch, Jill Christman, xTx, Emma Smith-Stevens,Stacey May Fowles, Zoë Medeiros & Anthony Frame. I chose to listen to the audio in which the stories are voiced by their authors which of course added a multitude.
This is a book everyone needs to read when they feel they are able to. It's not a pleasant read in any way and is the definition of triggering for anyone with any history of sexual trauma but I also think it is in a way healing to hear some of these stories. Every person irrelevant or gender or orientation should read this and come more aware of just how horrific and invasive Rape Culture is.
Graphic: Adult/minor relationship, Biphobia, Child abuse, Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, Homophobia, Incest, Misogyny, Pedophilia, Rape, Self harm, Sexism, Sexual assault, Sexual content, Sexual violence, Suicidal thoughts, Toxic relationship, Trafficking, Transphobia, and Violence
gabtiffin's review
5.0
Graphic: Rape, Adult/minor relationship, Body shaming, Child abuse, Incest, Misogyny, Pedophilia, Physical abuse, Sexual assault, Sexual violence, Suicidal thoughts, Toxic relationship, and Violence
minimoongoddess's review
5.0
Graphic: Rape, Sexual violence, Sexual assault, and Incest
kimmysanders's review
5.0
Graphic: Rape, Sexual assault, Sexism, Sexual content, Sexual violence, Adult/minor relationship, Child abuse, and Pedophilia
Moderate: Child abuse, Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, Incest, Physical abuse, Self harm, Suicidal thoughts, and Toxic relationship
tabitha_isabelle's review
4.0
Graphic: Sexual violence, Violence, Child abuse, Emotional abuse, Incest, Mental illness, Pedophilia, Physical abuse, Rape, Sexual assault, and Sexual content