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Because We Are Bad: OCD and a Girl Lost in Thought by Lily Bailey

mightmiss's review against another edition

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challenging dark emotional hopeful informative inspiring reflective sad medium-paced

4.75

cerealceec's review

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emotional funny hopeful informative inspiring medium-paced

3.0

related to a lot of bailey's experiences as a fellow audio haver and i appreciated the frankness. however the narration was a bit grating and (most notably) there were some STARTLINGLY racist and fatphobic passages??? very surprised no one else has mentioned this

geva1108's review against another edition

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4.0

this is a really detailed and compelling narrative of a young girl growing up with OCD. i can see so much of my own experience in hers.  even though the content is different with obsessions, the process pretty much is always the same. my first OCD memory, as a Catholic child, was a voice that kept asserting “I HATE GOD” in my head. i thought i must have been bound for hell if i really thought that way, so i would try to turn it into a silly song so it wouldn’t “count.” the content shifted— always some form of contamination and illness fear, horrific intrusive harm or disgust images that would appear in my head so quickly i would wince, every cognitive distortion you can think of (if i don’t lean forward in my seat, the bridge will collapse), etcetera. i wasn’t diagnosed properly because i was always (too?) good in school. i was just a “perfectionist” and “anxious.” so reading this, nearing my 3rd decade of life, i finally see something familiar to what i experienced as a weird child who was scared of everything. i want to write about my experiences in as detailed of a way— i wonder how to extract all of these things from my brain when i’ve always locked them in there. i'm glad i read this. 

bookgoblin83's review against another edition

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4.0

OCD isn't cute. It is hard, debilitating, it can dominate your entire life. Having struggled with OCD myself, I was curious about this memoir, and oh boy, did it deliver! I wish everyone who says "Oh, I am a little OCD too! I like to line my books by colour!" would get a chance to read this book so they can understand the disservice they do to those whose lives are turned upside down by their thoughts. At the height of my own struggle with OCD, I would start preparing to leave my house hours in advance, as I knew I would make several trips back in order to check I hadn't left the oven on, the door open, the water running, the cat trapped in the bathroom. It was absolutely painful. But like the author, I eventually sought help, and despite ups and downs, things are under control, but I have to remain very vigilant. A great read, highly recommend it.

mollies_reads's review

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emotional funny hopeful informative inspiring reflective sad fast-paced

4.0

rlongford's review against another edition

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5.0

Very tough read but that is because of how personal it was to me. Bailey captured an OCD experience brilliantly and I really hope it helps others understand.

myotinae's review against another edition

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emotional medium-paced

3.5

jennohiggo's review against another edition

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emotional fast-paced

4.0

kylieswag's review against another edition

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informative inspiring fast-paced

4.75

bebebel's review against another edition

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emotional inspiring fast-paced

5.0

Such a beautifully written book. Saw myself in a lot of lily’s actions and made me feel a little bit less alone.