boundtwobooks's review against another edition
3.0
Lily Pebbles’ is a lifestyle and beauty Youtuber from the U.K. Her first book, The F Word, is a celebration and personal exploration of contemporary friendships. I have always been interested in friendships, in particular female friendships, because when I moved to Switzerland in 2013 I saw massive shifts in who I thought were friends and who actually stuck around for the long haul. In her book, Pebbles does a taxonomy of sorts of the different types of friends and friendships both good and bad. She uses personal experiences and examples to explore the theme of friendship and offers advice for finding, maintaining, and letting go of friendships.
Pebbles’ book has been received with polarised reviews, I think mainly because many people had hoped this would be a cultural/historical study into friendships and was more of a personal memoir-like discussion. The writing is fairly simplistic, but I feel that she offers a lot of thought provoking descriptions about different types of friends and friendships that have lead me to think about the people in my life I call friend. She offers examples of toxic relationships and friendship breakdowns and how to recover from them. She offers up advice on how to appologise when you make a mistake (something I think everyone could get better at doing) as well as different ways to celebrate the different types of friendships you have in your life.
In general, I feel that we need to have more honest and open discussions about friendship. I also feel like Pebbles’ novel has given me motivation to find other cultural texts about friendship. Women are often taught to focus on romantic relationships, but friendships are just as important, if not more, and can be as equally rewarding and challenging as their romantic counterpart. The problem is that we often don’t have the language or tools to help us navigate friendships. I, for example, have often wondered how to end friendships gracefully. Unlike romantic breakups where I feel like you can send that message, “We need to talk…”, friendship breakups are often harder and more stressful because we don’t have experience of cultural knowledge. We often think that friendships are just supposed to last, when in reality they are just like any other relationship that can fizzle out for a multitude of reasons.
Whether you pick up Lily Pebbles’ book on friendship or not, I hope that this review has made you think about the friendships you have in your life and if you are happy with them.
What great books have you read about friendship and what are ways that you celebrate the friends you have in your life? As always, share the reading love.
https://bound2books.co/2019/04/12/the-f-word-a-review-of-lily-pebbles-book-celebrating-friendship/
Pebbles’ book has been received with polarised reviews, I think mainly because many people had hoped this would be a cultural/historical study into friendships and was more of a personal memoir-like discussion. The writing is fairly simplistic, but I feel that she offers a lot of thought provoking descriptions about different types of friends and friendships that have lead me to think about the people in my life I call friend. She offers examples of toxic relationships and friendship breakdowns and how to recover from them. She offers up advice on how to appologise when you make a mistake (something I think everyone could get better at doing) as well as different ways to celebrate the different types of friendships you have in your life.
In general, I feel that we need to have more honest and open discussions about friendship. I also feel like Pebbles’ novel has given me motivation to find other cultural texts about friendship. Women are often taught to focus on romantic relationships, but friendships are just as important, if not more, and can be as equally rewarding and challenging as their romantic counterpart. The problem is that we often don’t have the language or tools to help us navigate friendships. I, for example, have often wondered how to end friendships gracefully. Unlike romantic breakups where I feel like you can send that message, “We need to talk…”, friendship breakups are often harder and more stressful because we don’t have experience of cultural knowledge. We often think that friendships are just supposed to last, when in reality they are just like any other relationship that can fizzle out for a multitude of reasons.
Whether you pick up Lily Pebbles’ book on friendship or not, I hope that this review has made you think about the friendships you have in your life and if you are happy with them.
What great books have you read about friendship and what are ways that you celebrate the friends you have in your life? As always, share the reading love.
https://bound2books.co/2019/04/12/the-f-word-a-review-of-lily-pebbles-book-celebrating-friendship/
kattha's review against another edition
3.0
2.5. Yeah, that was alright, not very good tbh. Especially the #AskLP were SO weird. If they had fitted the chapter that would have been fine, but it was just SO random. Meh
yasminnotjasmin's review against another edition
1.0
This book made me really appreciate good writing because of how terrible the writing in this book is. I felt like I was reading a 12 year old’s diary and there were way too many personal stories that I had zero interest in.
The author is incredibly lucky to have sooo many long lasting friendships, most people that I’ve been friends with are really flakey and don’t keep in contact so I don’t understand how the writer has managed it!
The author is incredibly lucky to have sooo many long lasting friendships, most people that I’ve been friends with are really flakey and don’t keep in contact so I don’t understand how the writer has managed it!
healingtothemax's review
4.0
F is also for FAST read, able to FLIP through this book with Lily Pebbles putting the FUN in a Fundamental read for us gal pals. Surprising there hasn't been a book like this out there, so it's extra gratifying to be given this resource in helping us understand the roles we play thru choice and instinct in our female friendships. Been there, met that and healed the scars from those toxic sisters still asleep at the wheel. Share this book, hand it to your gal pal, leave it in a free library, mail it to the ones who need it, especially those whom you may not have talked to as often as you both wanted just because life can be distracting. So take a breath, seize the moment, and be the friend you love.
emgem647's review
2.0
I started off reading this book enjoying the fact that it seemed like a light read. What I ended up not enjoying so much was the highly condescending tone throughout the book - whatever the author’s opinion was, sounded like we should take it for gospel.
I would have enjoyed it more if there were more studies, actual facts rather than one story/example per friend type, which made for really hard to take seriously.
I would have enjoyed it more if there were more studies, actual facts rather than one story/example per friend type, which made for really hard to take seriously.
emily_lane's review
2.0
Pros; This book had me thinking a lot about my female friendships, and talking to my bestie throughout it. It reminded me to reach out to a friend who was struggling to check in, and let her know I'm thinking about her. It reminded me of the biggest falling out I've had with my oldest friend, though I couldn't remember why we fell out.
Cons; The book felt a bit unrefined, the concept and the germs of the idea were really strong but the end product had me frustrated, or simply surprised at points.
If you are a fan of Lily, it's worth a read. It was clearly a passion project of hers, and has impacted me. It wasn't the book I was expecting.
Cons; The book felt a bit unrefined, the concept and the germs of the idea were really strong but the end product had me frustrated, or simply surprised at points.
If you are a fan of Lily, it's worth a read. It was clearly a passion project of hers, and has impacted me. It wasn't the book I was expecting.
melissacharitos's review against another edition
2.0
Ik had andere verwachtingen bij dit boek; het gaat meer over Lily’s ervaringen, dan bruikbare tekst/tips voor andere meiden. Er staat in de titel dan wel “personal exploration”, maar ik weet niet voor welke doelgroep dit boek dan geschreven zou zijn.. Schrijfstijl is oké, leest makkelijk weg. Lily’s YouTube kanaal is een aanrader, dit boek niet.
wilda's review
4.0
The female friends, amistades femeninas.
Me gustó mucho este libro.
No suelo leer no ficción, prácticamente lo realice mientras leía el libro.
La autora habla de los distintos tipos y etapas de las amistades femeninas a partir de su propia experiencia.
En algunas partes no me logre conectar, especialmente cuando hablaba de las amistades a través de las redes sociales porque la verdad no son mi fuerte ni mi mayor interés, pero los últimos capítulos sobre amistades toxicas, celos y mejores amigos me encantaron y me volvió a ganar.
También tiene su capitulo honorifico para las relaciones con hombres que esta bueno.
Me gustó mucho este libro.
No suelo leer no ficción, prácticamente lo realice mientras leía el libro.
La autora habla de los distintos tipos y etapas de las amistades femeninas a partir de su propia experiencia.
En algunas partes no me logre conectar, especialmente cuando hablaba de las amistades a través de las redes sociales porque la verdad no son mi fuerte ni mi mayor interés, pero los últimos capítulos sobre amistades toxicas, celos y mejores amigos me encantaron y me volvió a ganar.
También tiene su capitulo honorifico para las relaciones con hombres que esta bueno.