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shadaeklondike's review against another edition
5.0
I got exactly what I needed from this book. It gave me the anger at my lack of self respect and perspective that I needed to end a toxic friendship. Wish I'd read it years and years ago.
pinkyprincesscupcake's review against another edition
3.0
3/5 stars
Some of the advices were really good, made me re-think the way I was acting around male and even got some confidence tips.
BUT
Some of this triggered me, scared me even.
The author treats men like they are animals, dumb that just want to have power. This is not okay. The « Dumb fox » part was alarming !
You don’t want to act dumb and like a wifey to be respected by man that’s just not how it works. You don’t want to act like you can’t change a light ball to be attractive that’s just scary.
This has a lot of manipulative advices, it’s no good to start a relation with manipulative behaviour. You shouldn’t change yourself for a guy, if he wants to be with you that’s for you not because you are acting a certain way to please him, that’s what a boss ass bitch / indépendant women would do.
Don’t change yourself.
I was adviced this book after a breakup, and this book was a very interesting read but I hope more feminist and boss ass bitch vibe not just « Don’t pay at restaurants » because yes, you should do 50/50 that’s what a boss ass bitch that respects herself would do in my opinion.
Reading this I realised that some of the advices (if applied, and some should definitely not be applied) you will attract a narcissist man or end up cheated on because a boss ass bitch, strong independent woman, whatever you want to call it, doesn’t act like she needs a man to change a tyre !
Some of the advices were really good, made me re-think the way I was acting around male and even got some confidence tips.
BUT
Some of this triggered me, scared me even.
The author treats men like they are animals, dumb that just want to have power. This is not okay. The « Dumb fox » part was alarming !
You don’t want to act dumb and like a wifey to be respected by man that’s just not how it works. You don’t want to act like you can’t change a light ball to be attractive that’s just scary.
This has a lot of manipulative advices, it’s no good to start a relation with manipulative behaviour. You shouldn’t change yourself for a guy, if he wants to be with you that’s for you not because you are acting a certain way to please him, that’s what a boss ass bitch / indépendant women would do.
Don’t change yourself.
I was adviced this book after a breakup, and this book was a very interesting read but I hope more feminist and boss ass bitch vibe not just « Don’t pay at restaurants » because yes, you should do 50/50 that’s what a boss ass bitch that respects herself would do in my opinion.
Reading this I realised that some of the advices (if applied, and some should definitely not be applied) you will attract a narcissist man or end up cheated on because a boss ass bitch, strong independent woman, whatever you want to call it, doesn’t act like she needs a man to change a tyre !
sadiextricia's review against another edition
3.0
This book has helped me gain confidence and see my true value. No more being a pushover!
keishajpg's review against another edition
4.0
this book is silly but i read it back when I was dating men and tested it out on 1 particular subject and it actually worked lol. I was in the midst of moving into a new apartment and had just met this guy, so i decided why not put some of the reading into real life practice. I’ve always had an issue with being too nice/agreeable to men (i know i know, it’s embarrassing for me to even type that out) but being a “bitch”, which was really just me being assertive and not making him a priority in my life until he provided himself worthy, def changed the way i thought about dating. He was hands down the most courteous/respectful/committed man i had ever dated and all i had to do was be a little mean to him here and there.
fortunately, now i date women so i don’t have to play these little games but if you’re curious about the book, definitely read it
fortunately, now i date women so i don’t have to play these little games but if you’re curious about the book, definitely read it
tripledoublecrunchwrap's review against another edition
1.0
Basically I obught this book because it was only 1 dollar and the name was funny. I wasn't expecting it to be all that great, but It is TERRIBLE. It gives horrible advice about giving your man a feeling of power???? and it is also very repetitive ugh I cant even finish it I hate it
jenlindsey_'s review against another edition
4.0
I’ll give this book 4⭐️ conditionally.
I understand the overall message the book is trying to convey: be independent, stand your ground, don’t live your life around (or for) a man, keep true to your morals, be yourself, etc. But the convuluted games that are encouraged to play to keep a man are just wild. I thought we weren’t supposed to live our lives for men, Sherry, but isn’t that exactly what you’re telling us to do?
The chapter that made me eye roll so hard was The Dumb Fox. I’m not allowed to kill a bug in front of a man? And then I’m supposed to congratulate him and tell him he has the biggest muscles for killing said bug? What!?! This came directly after a chapter telling you to be an independent woman, so no, I’m not sorry to say that I would gladly kill a bug in front of a man.
I’m still okay with my 4⭐️ because it did give me insight into how my actions have failed previous relationships before, but I think I could have done just as well with a 10 page chapter on The Rubber Band Theory and gotten all I needed.
It’s important to take any self help book lightly; take what you need and leave the rest. So the misogyny, outdated gender roles, and ‘dumb fox’ aspects I can set aside…for now.
I understand the overall message the book is trying to convey: be independent, stand your ground, don’t live your life around (or for) a man, keep true to your morals, be yourself, etc. But the convuluted games that are encouraged to play to keep a man are just wild. I thought we weren’t supposed to live our lives for men, Sherry, but isn’t that exactly what you’re telling us to do?
The chapter that made me eye roll so hard was The Dumb Fox. I’m not allowed to kill a bug in front of a man? And then I’m supposed to congratulate him and tell him he has the biggest muscles for killing said bug? What!?! This came directly after a chapter telling you to be an independent woman, so no, I’m not sorry to say that I would gladly kill a bug in front of a man.
I’m still okay with my 4⭐️ because it did give me insight into how my actions have failed previous relationships before, but I think I could have done just as well with a 10 page chapter on The Rubber Band Theory and gotten all I needed.
It’s important to take any self help book lightly; take what you need and leave the rest. So the misogyny, outdated gender roles, and ‘dumb fox’ aspects I can set aside…for now.
smartunic0rn's review against another edition
1.0
به نصفه نرسیده سردرد گرفتم از این همه کلیشه جنسیتی و کوته بینی نویسنده. ترجمه فارسی هم موجوده. متاسفانه.
ادیت ریویو بعد از بهبودی سردرد :)) :
من میونه خوبی با آدم هایی که میگن همه ی زن ها اینطورن و همه ی مردها اونطور ندارم و نویسنده ی این کتاب یکی از همون هاس.
کتاب بر این اصل نوشته شده که زن باید ناز بکنه تا مرد حس نیاز به او داشته باشه و دنبالش کنه در غیر این صورت جذابیتش رو از دست میده! همه ی مردها رو جوری توصیف کرده که منتظر هستن ببینن زن چگونه رفتار میکنه که به آنی تغییر رفتار بدن.
نویسنده حتی متوجه نیست که ویژگی های شخصیتی اصلا جنسیتی نیستن. به همون اندازه که مردهایی هستن که با کلیشه ناز کردن زن موافقن، مردهایی بیزار از این ماجرا و حتی برعکس اون رو داریم. این ها رو نمیشه برچسب زد رو همه زن ها و همه مردها. هر رابطه دارای دو آدم متفاوته که لزوما طبق قانونی که این نویسنده و خیلی افراد دیگه گذاشتن رفتار نمیکنن.
با چند نمونه از نظرات شاهکار ایشون آشنا بشیم:
The three words guaranteed to turn any man on? “You are right.”
You’ll never convince him otherwise, so don’t bother trying.
Let him be right. You be smart.
توهین به شعور مرد :))))
Don’t even kill a bug when he’s around. Don’t change a tire. In fact, don’t even change a light bulb.
بله در قرن ۲۱ :)))))))
However, if he asks you to split the check on the first few dates, don’t see him again. It has less to do with a few dollars than with the fact that he’s not very concerned with impressing you.
شاید چون زن هم باید بپردازه و بحث پول هم نیست!؟
Women who are successful in other areas of life are often the ones who find themselves saying, “I should not have to apologize for being strong.” Then the following week they wonder why they
“can’t find a good man.” Because a good man wants a good w-o-m-a-n.
دیگه حرفی نمی مونه :))
ادیت ریویو بعد از بهبودی سردرد :)) :
من میونه خوبی با آدم هایی که میگن همه ی زن ها اینطورن و همه ی مردها اونطور ندارم و نویسنده ی این کتاب یکی از همون هاس.
کتاب بر این اصل نوشته شده که زن باید ناز بکنه تا مرد حس نیاز به او داشته باشه و دنبالش کنه در غیر این صورت جذابیتش رو از دست میده! همه ی مردها رو جوری توصیف کرده که منتظر هستن ببینن زن چگونه رفتار میکنه که به آنی تغییر رفتار بدن.
نویسنده حتی متوجه نیست که ویژگی های شخصیتی اصلا جنسیتی نیستن. به همون اندازه که مردهایی هستن که با کلیشه ناز کردن زن موافقن، مردهایی بیزار از این ماجرا و حتی برعکس اون رو داریم. این ها رو نمیشه برچسب زد رو همه زن ها و همه مردها. هر رابطه دارای دو آدم متفاوته که لزوما طبق قانونی که این نویسنده و خیلی افراد دیگه گذاشتن رفتار نمیکنن.
با چند نمونه از نظرات شاهکار ایشون آشنا بشیم:
The three words guaranteed to turn any man on? “You are right.”
You’ll never convince him otherwise, so don’t bother trying.
Let him be right. You be smart.
توهین به شعور مرد :))))
Don’t even kill a bug when he’s around. Don’t change a tire. In fact, don’t even change a light bulb.
بله در قرن ۲۱ :)))))))
However, if he asks you to split the check on the first few dates, don’t see him again. It has less to do with a few dollars than with the fact that he’s not very concerned with impressing you.
شاید چون زن هم باید بپردازه و بحث پول هم نیست!؟
Women who are successful in other areas of life are often the ones who find themselves saying, “I should not have to apologize for being strong.” Then the following week they wonder why they
“can’t find a good man.” Because a good man wants a good w-o-m-a-n.
دیگه حرفی نمی مونه :))
andermonster's review against another edition
funny
informative
inspiring
lighthearted
reflective
fast-paced
4.0
Easy read. Great for post break up