Reviews tagging 'Child abuse'

Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Difficult, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents by Lindsay C. Gibson

29 reviews

beebowbabe's review against another edition

challenging emotional reflective medium-paced

3.5

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Child abuse, Emotional abuse, and Toxic relationship

Moderate: Mental illness, Gaslighting, and Abandonment

Minor: Addiction, Domestic abuse, and Alcohol

moranwehrli's review against another edition

challenging hopeful informative inspiring reflective sad medium-paced

4.0

I found this book incredibly helpful, but I have one major problem with it. About 1/2 way through Gibson lays out the distinction between internalizers and externalizers as different reactions to growing up with emotionally immature parents. I found this to be very true and interesting HOWEVER throughout the rest of the book externalizers tend to be villainized and portrayed as people incapable of change while the actually advice focuses in on helping the internalizer. There is some vague attempt at explaining this by saying internalizers are much more likely to read a book like this. But I think this is a self fulfilling prophecy. There’s isn’t as much point to reading this book as an externalizer as it doesnt offer as much help. ALSO I think there are some point where the author points to internalizer traits as potentially good virtuous or helpful when I disagree. As an internalizer myself, I think it important to understand much of our coping revolves around not being the problem to the point we are even able to trick therapist into thinking maladaptive behavior is healthy. 
Ultimately I think this book tries to take on a unbiased scientific perspective despite talking about incredible personal and emotionally topics. This author is obviously an internalizer and harbors a decent amount of bias she has not yet unpacked. I WOULD suggest this book to almost anyone, but warn them first of this bias 

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Child abuse, Domestic abuse, and Emotional abuse

quotablehedgehog's review against another edition

challenging emotional hopeful informative inspiring reflective slow-paced

3.25

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Bullying, Child abuse, Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, Mental illness, Toxic relationship, and Gaslighting

Moderate: Infidelity, Panic attacks/disorders, Sexism, and Abandonment

laurynalexa's review against another edition

informative reflective medium-paced

4.0

An informative and healing read for anyone raised by emotionally immature parents. I feel like the book covered the topic relatively well but missed out on an opportunity to, in more depth, discuss externalizing children from these families.

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Content Warnings

Moderate: Child abuse and Abandonment

Minor: Addiction and Alcohol

savshelfinger's review against another edition

inspiring reflective medium-paced

4.75

BIBLE 

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Abandonment

Moderate: Child abuse

Minor: Domestic abuse

mads_reads_books's review against another edition

emotional informative reflective sad

5.0

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Content Warnings

Minor: Addiction, Child abuse, Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, Mental illness, Panic attacks/disorders, Physical abuse, Toxic relationship, Grief, Gaslighting, Abandonment, and Alcohol

grace_b_3's review against another edition

This is basically The 5 Love Languages, but for parenting. The first couple chapters seemed to have some alright advice for coping with a difficult childhood, but as the book went on, the lack of psychological backing for its framework became evident. I don’t know why the author insisted on emotional maturity, when some of the behavior described seems to have more to do with abusive childhoods and/or attachment, both of which are well-studied. 

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Content Warnings

Moderate: Child abuse

julleah's review against another edition

challenging emotional hopeful informative reflective medium-paced

4.0

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Content Warnings

Moderate: Bullying, Child abuse, Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, Mental illness, Physical abuse, Toxic relationship, Grief, Religious bigotry, and Gaslighting

glitterdeww's review against another edition

informative reflective fast-paced

4.0

An informative read that can shed light on past and present relationships.  While the author does mention various aspects of mental health and neurodivergence, the book sticks so closely to the concepts of emotional maturity that I felt some nuance may have been lost while discussing all that makes up an individual person. Some of the examples felt a bit black and white, also shirking nuance for the sake of a crystal clear analogy. 

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Content Warnings

Moderate: Toxic relationship

Minor: Child abuse

glassdanse's review against another edition

challenging hopeful informative reflective fast-paced

5.0

I think a lot of people would benefit from reading this, even if they themselves are not the children of emotionally immature parents. it isn't an easy read for sure, it made me cry many times and brought up some painful memories. equally, it felt freeing to be so validated, to be finally able to describe my experiences and to get some tangible coping mechanisms for the future.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Child abuse, Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, and Toxic relationship