Reviews tagging 'Emotional abuse'

Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Difficult, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents by Lindsay C. Gibson

37 reviews

beebowbabe's review against another edition

challenging emotional reflective medium-paced

3.5

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Child abuse, Emotional abuse, and Toxic relationship

Moderate: Mental illness, Gaslighting, and Abandonment

Minor: Addiction, Domestic abuse, and Alcohol

moranwehrli's review against another edition

challenging hopeful informative inspiring reflective sad medium-paced

4.0

I found this book incredibly helpful, but I have one major problem with it. About 1/2 way through Gibson lays out the distinction between internalizers and externalizers as different reactions to growing up with emotionally immature parents. I found this to be very true and interesting HOWEVER throughout the rest of the book externalizers tend to be villainized and portrayed as people incapable of change while the actually advice focuses in on helping the internalizer. There is some vague attempt at explaining this by saying internalizers are much more likely to read a book like this. But I think this is a self fulfilling prophecy. There’s isn’t as much point to reading this book as an externalizer as it doesnt offer as much help. ALSO I think there are some point where the author points to internalizer traits as potentially good virtuous or helpful when I disagree. As an internalizer myself, I think it important to understand much of our coping revolves around not being the problem to the point we are even able to trick therapist into thinking maladaptive behavior is healthy. 
Ultimately I think this book tries to take on a unbiased scientific perspective despite talking about incredible personal and emotionally topics. This author is obviously an internalizer and harbors a decent amount of bias she has not yet unpacked. I WOULD suggest this book to almost anyone, but warn them first of this bias 

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Child abuse, Domestic abuse, and Emotional abuse

quotablehedgehog's review against another edition

challenging emotional hopeful informative inspiring reflective slow-paced

3.25

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Bullying, Child abuse, Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, Mental illness, Toxic relationship, and Gaslighting

Moderate: Infidelity, Panic attacks/disorders, Sexism, and Abandonment

jontel's review against another edition

emotional hopeful informative inspiring reflective medium-paced

5.0

So helpful and I love how much it focuses on healing then how to find emotionally mature people. I leaned a lot about my own patterns of coping.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Emotional abuse

ruckystarnes's review against another edition

challenging emotional reflective fast-paced

4.75

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Emotional abuse, Mental illness, and Gaslighting

mads_reads_books's review against another edition

emotional informative reflective sad

5.0

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Content Warnings

Minor: Addiction, Child abuse, Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, Mental illness, Panic attacks/disorders, Physical abuse, Toxic relationship, Grief, Gaslighting, Abandonment, and Alcohol

julleah's review against another edition

challenging emotional hopeful informative reflective medium-paced

4.0

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Content Warnings

Moderate: Bullying, Child abuse, Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, Mental illness, Physical abuse, Toxic relationship, Grief, Religious bigotry, and Gaslighting

kateywaldhart's review against another edition

challenging emotional informative medium-paced

4.5

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Emotional abuse, Toxic relationship, Grief, and Abandonment

glassdanse's review against another edition

challenging hopeful informative reflective fast-paced

5.0

I think a lot of people would benefit from reading this, even if they themselves are not the children of emotionally immature parents. it isn't an easy read for sure, it made me cry many times and brought up some painful memories. equally, it felt freeing to be so validated, to be finally able to describe my experiences and to get some tangible coping mechanisms for the future.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Child abuse, Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, and Toxic relationship

tattedtrashreader's review against another edition

emotional informative reflective fast-paced

4.5

Super informative with great exercises to help identify within yourself and within others emotional maturity vs immaturity. Great for discussing with therapists and understanding why you might do or say certain things. 

I learned a lot about myself from this book and it helped me a lot. Def rec to others. 

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Content Warnings

Moderate: Emotional abuse and Mental illness