bmahaffy's review
5.0
I totally enjoyed this book. Self help books seem to fall into a couple of different camps; some more like an intellectual lecture and others with practical and useful exercises. This book definitely falls into the latter.
Jealousy is a "big" emotional and Chambliss offers loads of good insight into why we feel it and how to (and how not to) cope with your emotional responses. She's got a great sense of humour, uses some personal examples, and provides some good exercises and practical tools to help.
Interesting, too, is that a lot of the books insight's into processing jealousy in polyamorous relationships apply to other emotions and other relationship types as well. Parent/child relationships and monogamous partnerships can benefit from the ideas surrounding detachment and non-violent communications.
Jealousy is a "big" emotional and Chambliss offers loads of good insight into why we feel it and how to (and how not to) cope with your emotional responses. She's got a great sense of humour, uses some personal examples, and provides some good exercises and practical tools to help.
Interesting, too, is that a lot of the books insight's into processing jealousy in polyamorous relationships apply to other emotions and other relationship types as well. Parent/child relationships and monogamous partnerships can benefit from the ideas surrounding detachment and non-violent communications.
dazmanda's review
3.0
A short and easy-to-read book that I’d recommend to anyone dealing with jealousy (or the prospect of it) in their non-monogamous relationship(s). Especially if you have not read much or done much work on your jealousy before, this book will provide a great framework for understanding and dealing with this difficult emotion.
The content of the book was definitely useful for its intended reader. However I can’t rate this book more than 3 stars because of the poor writing. The over use of exclamation marks (sometimes 4 or more on a single page) is annoying. The author pads the chapters and sections with repetitive inanities (“what if I told you that it’s possible to [X Y Z]? You’d want to know how, right? Great! Read on to find out how!”). The book is about 100 pages long but inside it are very large topics that could each have had their own books, which the author summarises too quickly and never really gets in to.
If you are in a situation where you need to get a better handle on jealousy, read this book. Grit your teeth through the annoying and bad writing, don’t worry it’s only 100 pages long so you won’t have to suffer for too long.
The content of the book was definitely useful for its intended reader. However I can’t rate this book more than 3 stars because of the poor writing. The over use of exclamation marks (sometimes 4 or more on a single page) is annoying. The author pads the chapters and sections with repetitive inanities (“what if I told you that it’s possible to [X Y Z]? You’d want to know how, right? Great! Read on to find out how!”). The book is about 100 pages long but inside it are very large topics that could each have had their own books, which the author summarises too quickly and never really gets in to.
If you are in a situation where you need to get a better handle on jealousy, read this book. Grit your teeth through the annoying and bad writing, don’t worry it’s only 100 pages long so you won’t have to suffer for too long.
heathrayhay's review
5.0
Essential reading for folks honest about jealousy
This was a great and helpful quick read. It provides some great questions to think about that gave me a fresh perspective on my relationships and thoughts about polyamory. I still feel my brain railing against it all as trying to tame my wild feels, but I’m gonna try some of the tools offered here and see what happens. If yer a jealous person and you keep getting tripped up just allow yerself to be jealous and keep working. That’s really all you can do.
This was a great and helpful quick read. It provides some great questions to think about that gave me a fresh perspective on my relationships and thoughts about polyamory. I still feel my brain railing against it all as trying to tame my wild feels, but I’m gonna try some of the tools offered here and see what happens. If yer a jealous person and you keep getting tripped up just allow yerself to be jealous and keep working. That’s really all you can do.
nekokat's review
2.0
This was not awful but suffered in comparison to The Jealousy Workbook, which I also just read. The most interesting and useful parts for me were actually the ones summarizing a different work/strategy, Nonviolent Communication. That being said, I didn't get *nothing* out of it.
It's written in an incredibly obnoxious, bubbly, informal tone and for me personally, I could've done with a little less "You got this! I'm so proud of you! You rock!!" type filler. Plus there was a lot of self-promotion from the author.
Overall not a bad thing to have in your toolbox, especially since there are so few books in this genre, but I would definitely recommend The Jealousy Workbook first / additionally.
It's written in an incredibly obnoxious, bubbly, informal tone and for me personally, I could've done with a little less "You got this! I'm so proud of you! You rock!!" type filler. Plus there was a lot of self-promotion from the author.
Overall not a bad thing to have in your toolbox, especially since there are so few books in this genre, but I would definitely recommend The Jealousy Workbook first / additionally.
simonlorden's review
4.0
This book is written specifically to help the reader tackle jealousy, and specifically for people in open- or polyamorous relationships. I came into it as an outsider, who is interested in polyamory but has no past or current experience with it.
Still, I found the exercises interesting, and many of them seemed useful for handling emotions, anxiety or communication in general. In fact, I'm going to try some of the strategies in dealing with anxiety and depression.
Still, I found the exercises interesting, and many of them seemed useful for handling emotions, anxiety or communication in general. In fact, I'm going to try some of the strategies in dealing with anxiety and depression.
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