Reviews

Pykčio šokis by Harriet Lerner

mckmundorf's review against another edition

5.0

Amazing. Every woman should read this.

dpcorcoran's review against another edition

3.0

My psychiatrist wanted me to read this. Not because I’m an angry person but because anxiety can stem from deep rooted things that cause anger. It’s an interesting concept that anxiety can equal anger. It’s not always correlated of course but still. There was some really great information about patterns in relationships when it comes to anxiety. For example, a relationship I have with a family member that isn’t the greatest is always the same arguments when we get together. This is explained by “repeating fights protects us from the anxieties of change.” So if we get used to the same fights because it’s familiar and we know the outcome. I think it’s also important instead of being defensive with someone about something you disagree on, you understand that different perspectives are good between people and realize that it doesn’t mean one of you is right and the other is wrong. There was a lot of stuff that I didn’t feel applied to myself in the book but I’m still glad I read it.

danastaples's review against another edition

5.0

Life changing. I highly recommend. I want to immediately re-read it. I was surprised with this being such an old book (1985) that it was so on point with issues women face that cause us anger, and the ineffective ways that we typically try and deal with those triggers that just do not work. The author is very validating, while simultaneously challenging readers to examine and take responsibility for their own role in patterns that cause them anger and how to change those patterns. Recommend to anyone with relationships that cause them stress, anger, or frustration with spouse, parents, in-laws, etc.

sarahreadsabit's review against another edition

4.5

I don’t agree with everything here (I don’t think we should always seek improve relationships with all family members) but I paused and took notes and texted thoughts to friends often enough to give this 4.5 stars.

I especially liked the thoughts on women’s tenancy to over function for others, causing resentment and bitterness and anger for themselves.

Recommend to anyone who is tired of being angry over the same things in your relationships.

meikac's review against another edition

emotional informative inspiring reflective medium-paced

4.25

cebleyl's review against another edition

informative fast-paced

4.0

calebmatthews's review against another edition

3.0

It’s not the person, it’s the pattern that’s the problem.

kateburstein31's review against another edition

5.0

I found this to be another very helpful book by Harriet Lerner. It’s an easy read with all the various case studies she includes, and there’s a lot to be taken away for reflection. This book provides thoughtful suggestions and stories to help alter and strengthen all kinds of relationships. I wish I had read this years ago!

fluffywhiskers's review against another edition

challenging emotional hopeful informative inspiring reflective medium-paced

5.0

kellyroymilot's review against another edition

challenging hopeful informative inspiring reflective medium-paced

5.0