ch0wwder's review against another edition
5.0
thank you to my therapist for recommending this idgaf if reading self help books is corny this actually helped me a lot 😠(also i listened to the audiobook but will be getting a physical copy so i can do the little silly activities and go through it with my therapist😋)
carolynaugustyn's review against another edition
3.0
I read this much like I read He's Just Not That Into You- I had heard some hype about the book and got curious. Having gone through a breakup several months ago, I figured this might be the best time to give it a go and maybe get something from it. And...I kind of did? This is framed as if friends are writing/talking directly to you- lots of saying how great you are and how much your ex is losing out on but also telling you to stop moping and find someone who will recognize how great you are. I did the audiobook version of this book so it was kind of nice to keep hearing how great I am and how much of a loser my ex is. However, I think at this point I'm mostly over the emotional strain of a breakup (which, yay) so I didn't really benefit too much from the advice. I could see how this would be good for a recent split (like, first few weeks after). There were some problematic moments in the book- like saying a girl who sleeps with her ex's friends is a slut- and some of the logic behind the advice falls into the "women are emotional, men have no feelings" stereotype. But aside from those bits, there was a lot of encouraging aspects to this book. Many of the themes are repeated often but this works as a way to kind of beat the message into your head ("You are great. He is missing out. Go live your best life.") So maybe this was a 2.5 star book for me, not sure, maybe my next breakup I can better rate the book.
thebeautyunknown's review against another edition
4.0
I’ve come back to this book after every breakup and I swear to god it helps me more than anything else
marril's review against another edition
challenging
emotional
funny
informative
lighthearted
reflective
medium-paced
3.5
vignesh_sk94's review against another edition
4.0
If you are young and broken up, You wont get a lot of good relationship advice from your friends who are young and stupid just like you. And if you are from India, you cant look towards your elders for help who are struggling more than you from their own toxic Arranged Marriages. If you look for Therapists in India - you will only find the bad ones since the good ones are fleeing the country causing India's "Brain Drain". And if you go in search of other heartbroken souls, you will only find smiling selfies that mask the inner sadness so well ! With no help in sight but memories of your ex constantly gaslighting you - this book is a god-send to help you put back your scrambled sanity !
There are hundreds of relationship stories to learn from and relate to. You can learn a lot of relationship mistakes you can avoid making yourself ! After 60-70% of the book, things start to feel repetitive and redundant. But i guess the messages are intentionally repeated to make sure the messages reach the reader for sure!
In the end, this book cant replace your friends. But it will help you to reduce the burden on them. You would learn to lean on them less and lean on the crutch more until you are back to health and can walk on your own !
There are hundreds of relationship stories to learn from and relate to. You can learn a lot of relationship mistakes you can avoid making yourself ! After 60-70% of the book, things start to feel repetitive and redundant. But i guess the messages are intentionally repeated to make sure the messages reach the reader for sure!
In the end, this book cant replace your friends. But it will help you to reduce the burden on them. You would learn to lean on them less and lean on the crutch more until you are back to health and can walk on your own !
jessicapc's review against another edition
3.0
Quite outdated, and aimed at cis straight women who have been dumped.
It didn't apply to me so much, but it wasn't as bad a read as I feared.
Still too much of a "self help" book for my liking.
It didn't apply to me so much, but it wasn't as bad a read as I feared.
Still too much of a "self help" book for my liking.
gosurori's review against another edition
1.0
Well this was pretty bad. Making the ex who broke up with you look like a monster. Come on...
melodious47's review against another edition
5.0
After getting my heart shoved into a blender, a coworker bought me this book and said it's a life-changer. She's right. Once I started it, I couldn't stop, and I underlined and wrote in it all the way through. It feels like a conversation with your smartest, wisest, tough-loviest friend. It can be a little cheesy at times, but by the time I finished reading it, my big, bad, single Superfox self was ready to take on the world.
One of the best parts: "That person that you loved looked at you in all your awesomeness, evaluated your relationship, and said, 'No thanks, I think I'll try my luck elsewhere.'... Anyone who views you or your relationship as disposable is not worth your time or your tears."
One of the best parts: "That person that you loved looked at you in all your awesomeness, evaluated your relationship, and said, 'No thanks, I think I'll try my luck elsewhere.'... Anyone who views you or your relationship as disposable is not worth your time or your tears."
dfwsusie's review against another edition
5.0
When I was going through a tough breakup I found this and turned it into a tear and snot stained manual of moving back to normal life again. Over the last 5 years I have bought about 10 copies of it to give to friends going through that awful suckfest that is the end of love. I hope you never need to read it, but if you do it will give you comfort. Also it will remind you not to turn into that super scissor wielding psycho hose-beast afterward. Ain't nobody got time for that.