heidirgorecki's review against another edition
5.0
Many great concepts and practical steps to learn not to white knuckle or push thru, just trying harder. But Try softer discusses the leaning into our emotions, identifying what and how we feel and our attachment styles and potential pitfalls, how our bodies respond, and showing compassion towards ourselves. I identified a lot with what the author discusses in her own life and the outlook she had. Many good applications for me in this.
melissaw12's review against another edition
emotional
informative
inspiring
reflective
medium-paced
5.0
christinesreads's review against another edition
hopeful
informative
inspiring
reflective
medium-paced
5.0
lneff514's review against another edition
5.0
I was so pleasantly surprised at how wonderful this book is! So practical, informative, and hopeful. I listened to the audiobook and ended up buying the print book and companion journal. This is work that I want to continue.
charissaeden's review against another edition
challenging
emotional
hopeful
informative
inspiring
reflective
slow-paced
4.75
A gentle approach to tackling hard things
canadiancascadian's review against another edition
5.0
I would absolutely recommend this book to any Christian who has suffered from trauma, particularly trauma from their childhood.
Aundi Kolber’s message is exactly what the title says: Try Softer. So many of us who have experienced deep hurt or trauma, particularly from our caregivers, have a tendency to push the hard feelings down and -as Aundi likes to say- white-knuckle our way through life. Try harder. Make everything okay. Survive.
But we don’t have to do that.
By learning how to identify and sit with our feelings, we can find healing. We can learn to be more resilient people. We don’t have to push ourselves to be okay when we’re not. But we do need to learn how to connect with our bodies and our emotions.
Aundi walks her readers through all of this and offers helpful exercises for those who either disconnect from their emotions or those who over-identify with their emotions to be able to find a healthy balance between the two. She helps the reader to find their “window of tolerance”, and how to identify when we are no longer within that window.
This is such a helpful book and I cannot recommend it strongly enough.
Aundi Kolber’s message is exactly what the title says: Try Softer. So many of us who have experienced deep hurt or trauma, particularly from our caregivers, have a tendency to push the hard feelings down and -as Aundi likes to say- white-knuckle our way through life. Try harder. Make everything okay. Survive.
But we don’t have to do that.
By learning how to identify and sit with our feelings, we can find healing. We can learn to be more resilient people. We don’t have to push ourselves to be okay when we’re not. But we do need to learn how to connect with our bodies and our emotions.
Aundi walks her readers through all of this and offers helpful exercises for those who either disconnect from their emotions or those who over-identify with their emotions to be able to find a healthy balance between the two. She helps the reader to find their “window of tolerance”, and how to identify when we are no longer within that window.
This is such a helpful book and I cannot recommend it strongly enough.
windmillofwords's review
2.0
If you've never ever stepped into the world of therapy/psychology, then this is a great starting place. If you have, I think you will find this to be a very simple therapy 101 book. There wasn't enough here for me to really value it.