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key_lime_cake's review against another edition
I read about halfway through this book when I first got diagnosed with social anxiety 9 years ago. Since then I did a lot of self help and cognitive behavioral therapy on my own. I still had the book so I thought I'd read it through this time, but I realized that I no longer suffer from significant social anxiety and I feel like I don't need to read it anymore. I'm going to pass it on to someone else who can get more out of it.
elkanna's review against another edition
4.0
This is something I’ve struggled with for years, ever since leaving EA. I didn’t know what created this change, or how to change back, so I’ve just been managing to get by as I watch relationships, opportunities, and self fade away. I wanted to get serious about addressing the problem from the root, so when I came across someone on Tiktok talking about this book, it felt like a sign too big to ignore. This is only the beginning of the work I need to put in to reap true change, but it’s time to stop hiding. It’s time to take my life back.
tilda_bookworm's review against another edition
Wasn't really getting anything out of it. CBT is just not really for me.
pumpie's review against another edition
I guess I've finished reading this (although I wasn't really reading it linearly), as I've finally had to hand it back to the library after starting work there a week ago, so that none of my colleagues would find out I'd been reading a self help book (the horror! the shame!). So perhaps the book didn't work 100% lol : ))
But still! Fairly solid advice, based on CBT, which I knew the gist of but it was nice to have worked through examples that were applicable to me. I found a lot of the exercises a bit...over the top personally, I find generally it's best for me to suck it up and just do it, but there were some very helpful points I took from the book. Namely:
1) Focus externally! I used to get into a terrible self-perpetuating blush, which I'd focus onto until my glasses steamed up (!) from the heat and I had to leave. Now I just force myself to focus on something, like counting the number of leaves on a nearby pot plant, which helps considerably.
2) Saftey behaviours increase your perception of danger! Don't do it.
3) Don't awfulise, or 'mind-read'! Has anyone actually said they think you're an idiot? That you're boring? Then they probably don't! They're probably only looking at you strangely because they themselves are feeling awkward, or are only yawning because they had a late night. These are not about you! Look at the facts objectively.
I have nothing to compare this too, so can't really say how much it's helped. However, when I started the book I was unemployed but now I have a job. Coincidence?!?!?!?
But still! Fairly solid advice, based on CBT, which I knew the gist of but it was nice to have worked through examples that were applicable to me. I found a lot of the exercises a bit...over the top personally, I find generally it's best for me to suck it up and just do it, but there were some very helpful points I took from the book. Namely:
1) Focus externally! I used to get into a terrible self-perpetuating blush, which I'd focus onto until my glasses steamed up (!) from the heat and I had to leave. Now I just force myself to focus on something, like counting the number of leaves on a nearby pot plant, which helps considerably.
2) Saftey behaviours increase your perception of danger! Don't do it.
3) Don't awfulise, or 'mind-read'! Has anyone actually said they think you're an idiot? That you're boring? Then they probably don't! They're probably only looking at you strangely because they themselves are feeling awkward, or are only yawning because they had a late night. These are not about you! Look at the facts objectively.
I have nothing to compare this too, so can't really say how much it's helped. However, when I started the book I was unemployed but now I have a job. Coincidence?!?!?!?
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